Dear Migs,

Long distance relationship never ever works. The first ever true love I had was a doctor lets name him Kisses. He was such a perfect guy for me, very cute, sexy, mabait. He was the guy who opened my eyes regarding my true sexuality. We met on a meeting in London for doctors. That time I was already eyeing him because he is such a looker. With some stroke of luck after the meeting he invited me for a cup of coffee which I obliged. We exchange numbers and after that I never heard from him for two months. Until I received a text that he wants to visit me to ask assistance for something medically related. That was our second meeting, on our second meeting we had the most intimate talk regarding each other lives and after that I fell for him. Because of the long chat it was already too late for him to go back to London, so I invited him to stay for the night and that I say is history already. We lived together and indeed it was the happiest moment of my life. Until he decided to go back to Philippines to go to US to practice. When he left it was like the end of my life. But he revived me everytime he send me sweet nothings. Our relationship seems to be perfect, I love him and he loves me in return. Thinking that we could survive the temporary separation I decided that maybe just maybe we can overcome the difficulty of a long distance relationship. Then after a few months he seems to be less romantic and then to make the story short I found out he is flirting with other guys. So the fighting began, from mild cat fight to the constant irritating quarrels. Until he fell out of love to me, and I was no where to reassure him of my love. And then one day I just discovered that he was no longer there for me, despite the love I am still feeling for him. Its always like that Long distance relationship only works at the start but always never succeed.

Bago ako ma-correct ng iba dito, I just realized while driving home last night that “Tenchi” is heaven and earth, while “Tenchu” roughly translates to heaven’s death/ wrath.

Anyways, “It’s the shape of things to come!”. Lol!

One thing I think that we are going to realize is that with the global diaspora, LDR is going to more and more prevalent.

cry a river

ayaw ko ng LDR… kahit ano pa man yan, it still hurts…

engage in coping mechanisms, LDR break na yun. Mahirap un eh

Really? Isn’t Tehchu also the pa-cute way kids have of saying “Thank You?”

Okay. Now that I’ve heard the salient points of the podcast, I know who these two lovers are. The one going abroad is a batchmate of mine back in college.

i really have to hear this podcast, for future reference, coz i am abroad right now, while my heart was left in the philippines

i think long distance relationship really works. it works for me… my bf is out of the country for 2 years now and i am still happy being with him though not physically. love can wait

6 years and a very huge phonebill. LDR works.

I’m currently in a LDR, in total we will be separated for 1 year (still going strong). Also this is my second LDR the first one lasted 3 years which is more then some ordinary relationships out there. It really depends on each other’s commitment and trust. Also it helps to be very understanding and open minded. LDR CAN DEFINITELY WORK

it never works.. come on’ temptations surrounds us.. who will maintain our physical desires… if you are a family with chldren then it should work.. but in a relationship.. whos’ fooling who.?

this is really hard. before i left i thought this will not work, but we have been into LDR for more than a year. it is a matter of focusing your energies to other matters than getting carried away from temptations. i am looking forward to the time we will be together abroad. however the only issue that i can see is that he is not exerting his efforts for us to be together here. sometimes i am pissed off. i am just giving him more time…

Migs,
Although this doesn’t exactly seem apt for this topic, I simply like to say… well, I do look forward to your dropping by my exhibit on the 14th. I’ll be so easy to spot. Just look for the big bald guy who looks like a wrestler.

Going back to the topic of this thread, I never believed in LDR. It is love that only exists in the mind. Convenient. And in the end, a waste of time. There.

And oh, I listened to this fabcast in mcvie’s blog, and I’d say, it was truly, magnificently hilarious.

If tenchu’s bf is in Brisbane, I could keep an eye on him. lol. Jealousy is cute in small doses.

saan po makakapanood ng mga indie films na sa quezon city matatagpuan? gusto ko po kasing manood ng roxxxanne…

nice discussion. it was really cool hearing different point of views from intelligent men. very entertaining and informative. hoping for more podcast

hey… don’t know how to ask you just, kaya I decided to post a comment in one of your entries.

1.> you know the name of the guy in Stresstab commercial? may promo sila ngayon. di ko alam ‘yung name niya, but all I can say is he is freakin’ hot.

2.> ‘yung guy na nasa coke commercial. there is this commercial na may mag-asawang naghiwalay, and then meron silang anak na girl. then bumisita ‘yung dad (na hot, na ang line lang ay ‘iba na kasi ngayon eh’ at ’sarap’) dun sa house… blah blah. basta yung coke commercial.

yun lang. hehe!

Ako lang po ba, or parang di ko madownload ang part 1 and 2? Intro lang?

hahah! na special mention si friend baguio boy, kahapon pa ako kinukulit kung me podcast na daw, i-save ko daw sa laptop ko. *kilig*

My boyfriend will come back exactly one year after he left for New York. So far our relationship is marred with constant fights and frustrations that often ends up in break-up threats. Now pushing on our 8th month, I could say we are only getting better. LDRs don’t work for all people but to a few who dare venture into one, the rewards are only realized on that day when he flies back home.

Come June I’d find out if everything’s worth the wait.

I had one LDR, and the distance was just a few provinces away. It didn’t end up well. Not because of the distance, but the unwillingness of the ex to keep in touch and make efforts to make time for me. He eventually found someone else towards the latter part of our relationship. but this argument is worth moot.

First and foremost, I think Tenchu should discuss and settle the idea behind chatting. If it’s a no-no for one year, then it should be a no-no. It’s something my lover and I have agreed to do: delete unknown people on friendster, delete the gay accounts, and quit chatting altogether. By doing this, you both eliminate certain fears. Tenchu, you need to learn to trust him again because (from what I heard), there were no other instances of “infidelity” before.

Secondary to that is your LDR. One year is not that far off. A lot may happen during that time, but if you both truly love and trust each other, you will both make it work.

This is evidenced by a friend who used to be a player. He entered into a relationship, which became an LDR. He has been celibate ever since his lover left, and now they are finding ways to become together again.

Just a caveat… trust your instincts. You, more than anyone else, will know what the right decision is. Do not add fuel to any fire but do not ignore the warning signals, too.

Less than a year into our relationship, my BF had to leave the country for work. He was gone for a year and a half.

He came back, and we’ve been together ever since.

Thirteen years and still going strong.

sa tingin ko LDR is not an issue to those who are sure of their relationship; otherwise it’s an opening to explore for either/or.

I have to say this, McVie ur a genius!!!

para sa akin, hindi issue ang LDR. If love were enough, you’d still be together in the end.

ok lang LDR. araw araw kayong nag e es o pee. hehehehe at mag sasariling sikap.

wow nice insights…thank you for so many positive thoughts and experiences…

Im shocked finding myself posting in here. Im an extremely in the closet type. Im in a secret relationship with a guy. We love each other very very much. Very very much. I love him with my life. But soon, he and his family will be migrating to Canada. Paonti-onti nang nababasag puso ko. Pero i have to be brave and use my head in this situation. 21 pa lang ako. Dami pa pwede mangyari. Grrrrrrrrrr. Sa totoo lang ang hirap. Sobrang hirap. Di ko pwede ilabas dahil maraming taong masasaktan. Ang hirap. I want to end my life to stop this misery.

I’m currently in an LDR now, i cried so hard talaga when he left… its hard… sometimes he’s cold, sometimes he showered me with love messages assuring me that I’m still the one in his heart and still faithful. but his absence and incosistent messaging made me feel alone and seeking for someone who can provide care, time and most especially his presence… huhuhu

LDR’s? They never work! The same goes to even with straight relationships. kakati at kakati pa rin ang isa (pwede ring both!). unless super zealous kayo sa isa’t isa. Which is malabo.

@EDWARD: You’re right, 21 ka pa lang, marami pang puwedeng mangyari. And at 21, it does feel like your world is crashing down on you and the misery so painful, you’d want to end it by ending your life.

DON’T.

If you can hold on and be strong, come back to me when you’re around 24 or 25, and you’ll tell me why ending one’s life is actually not an easy way out.