The solution is so simple… Rekindle the friendship that you and your officemate had. You said he’s your replica then why go find another person??? Gets?!?!?!

ui..first comment. haha…

pero ako im not confused. confused mag-out.

Hi Confused Cebuano Yuppie,

Your dilemma is no different from what I went through in the past but I did not seek gay sex inside the cinemas nor from anyone else, which you are doing. You do not get an answer to the many questions you have by soliciting sex from complete strangers who are potential carriers of the deadly sexually transmitted diseases. I hope you realize the risks you are taking when you allow people to perform oral sex on you. Oral sex alone can transmit diseases to the receiver.

You must have found in your colleague the things and qualities that you never saw in your past girlfriends, which discovery had overwhelmed you to such an extent that you “fell” in love with him.
He must be filling the vacuum that is within you and because he possesses some things that you have, you get attracted to him. Don’t be too confused. What you are going through is pretty much normal and there is nothing wrong with it. You are normal and you are perfectly fine.

Nurture your friendship with him and enjoy every moment that you are together. Since he is straight, you may not wish to tell him about what you feel about him, lest he gets offended, as many a straight guy is not open to such things, especially the idea of getting into a relationship with a gay guy. At least, you should be happy that you get to see the “apple of your eye” and should feel inspired to do your job and other things as there is this person who gives you a different kind of happiness.

Eventually, you will be able to find support groups in your area that can help you face the problems and issues you are confronting right now. You do not have to spend so much of your time seeking them out, as this may literally drain you of your energies. Online, you can even find sensible persons of the same gender orientation and in the same boat as you are and they can give you pieces of advice as far as your struggle with your sexuality goes. Even this particular site can generate not only sympathy and empathy for you but also much needed assistance and support to help you go through this phase. Be brave and be thankful that you are not the only one facing this kind of a problem; what you are experiencing right now should not make or encourage you to try things (like perversion or promiscuity) that you may later regret doing.

While there are those who are sincere in guiding you, there are also those who will take advantage of your situation and will use you to their own advantage and for their own selfish interests. Beware of these opportunists.

You pray and continue to hold your head up high and be proud!

Jigen Riztag
jigenriztag@yahoo.com

wow! first na nman aku.. hehe! well, that must be hard. i’m sure u won’t have a hard time finding that person who u think you’re looking for, if you’re gonna go out (i mean kinda out, like chatting with gay/bi guys). try mu mag-chat. i also see this in comments, “i’ve been thru the same exact phase you’re on now” and i’m gonna say it again. i have. mahirap pero pag natanggap mu na sa sarili mu kung anu ka at anu ang gusto mu, everything will go smoothly.. trust me! been there, done that even going to places like that for a quick pleasure. i’m over it now bro.. u don’t really have to come out like the typical gay guy. just be urself. dame jan straight acting gay guys.

- you like men
- you want to spend u life with a man(tama ba?)
- you like being pleasured by a man
- you are also a man

…u make the conclusion

basin kuyawan lang ka kung unsa ang resulta if mahibaw-an sa uban nga dili ka straight.

i remember a friend telling me: “if u are gay then tell us and if u are confused just tell us still. as long as u tell us how u really feel, all is fine with us”…

and dont expect for that love to come in an instant puff of smoke but i’m sure it will come…

ug hoy palayo na diha sa colon kay dili worth ang uwag kung masakit na ka. gasto pa ka… pag puasa sa imong biga, holy week baya…hahahaha

You are not gay.
You are not even bi.
You are neither of the two.
You are just lonely and feel alone and neglected.
You longed to be with someone that interest you and someone that provokes your intellectual capacity.
You really wanted a buddy….a best buddy.
Your sexcapades in dark alleys and movieshouses doesn’t prove anything that you longed for sexual intimacy with the same sex. It just happened and the only escapes to manifest your desire to be with someone else.
You are gay if and only if you are sexually attractive to the same sex.
You are bi if and only if you desire both male and female genitalia.
There is nothing being gay or being bi.
PLU are happy and knows its boundaries.
Loneliness is a disease, its eating us slowly and painfully.
Word of cautions, please be very careful in going to dark alleys and moviehouses…you do not know this individual who goes there…STDs is very rampant nowadays.
If you need a fuck buddy…..contact me!
Joke only…….hehehehe!

Yo bro! Like you, I’m Cebuano myself and went through the same confusion as you. Don’t worry there’s a group that you can talk to regarding what you’re going through. People just like us. =) Text me, here’s my number: 0918-9457820 or email dothe101@gmail.com

juzkoh iha…bakla ka! BAKLAAAAAHHHH!!! Ahihihiii…

Im from cebu too and i understand what ur going through. If you want we can hang out together. You can contact me thru mmiral27@yahoo.com

“Ikaw ba ay nalulungkot? Ikaw ba ay naghahanap ng kausap? Ano pa hinihintay mo? Tumawag sa…..” oops, wrong advertisement. lol.

People who you can talk to, even anonymous ones can help you even if they are just listening. Sometimes that is the only thing that people need. Someone to listen to their problems. Forums and social interaction places, even if its virtual such as this one, can help.

Ultimately though, and you need to realize this, that discovering, learning and accepting yourself is really a road one must take on his own. People can give you moral support along the way. Give you options to take, but in the end the journey of self-realization is your “burden” to take. This will shape you into the person you should be….it doesn’t need to fast or slow….it is really a pace you will set for yourself.

People tend to say that situations are complicated and confusing. I disagree. Most people know how one can solve a point of concern. The solution is usually simple. It is the steps to the solution that is hard and whether one can take those steps that causes the confusion and complication.

Self-realization is not something to be afraid about. Exploration is also not something to be embarassed about….how can one find out what he really wants if he doesn’t at least give it a fair shake…. Pace yourself and breathe, you will eventually find who you are suppose to be.

Awwww This is just cute for words. The blossoming of Confused Cebuano Yuppie. You don’t really have a huge dilemma at hand, buddy. It’s a transition! And, oh, what a great place it is for you to be in now.
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If I could offer you only one tip for your gay future, it would be Gatsby hair wax. Yeah. If applied on correctly, you will consistently get cool-looking, metrosexual, voluminous gay hair. Hundreds and thousands of other gay men can attest to this. On the other hand, the rest of my advice is based on my own meager experience. Let’s do this…
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Enjoy your youth and beauty. There is nothing more that will matter to you years later when you start hitting the clubs packed with ‘underaged’ men.
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Don’t worry too much about your gay future. Just bring out the best of your gay ‘now’. The things in your gay future that really matters can’t be solved with worrying. They need legislation.
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Don’t be reckless with other men’s hearts. It’s a ’small’ and tight community. Chances are your new boyfriend is your ex’s old time bestfriend. Reckless men begets wrecked hearts themselves. (And they fkucing deserve it!)
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Use condom. Always.
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Don’t waste your time on jealousy and envy. This is the real gay disease. Face it, some gay men will simply be hotter than you are. Some gay men will simply have hotter boyfriends.
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Keep in mind that some gay men are not as hot as they really are. The only way to know for sure is meet them off the internet.
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Exercise.
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Maybe you’ll find a man to spend the rest of your life with, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll still get to dance topless at some gay club on your 50th anniversary, or maybe you’ll end up blogging about your single life on your 50th birthday. No matter what happens, don’t get too proud or don’t get too bitter either. Eveyone get’s half chances when it comes to these choices.
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Sex! Enjoy your body. Enjoy someone else’s body, for the love of God! Heck, enjoy three or four bodies at the same. Just make sure they don’t already belong to somebody else.
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Surf for porn. Xtube will do wonders for the untimely heat. 5 minutes, some lube, bam, and back to earth. Your boyfriend remains the hottest man on earth still.
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Blog.
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Do NOT spend too much time looking at men on MGG.com. It will only make you feel ugly.
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Come out to your parents. Or drop them hints sooner or later. Chances are that they knew all along you were gay. But don’t expect them to accept you comepletely right away. It took you 20+ years to come to terms with yourself. It won’t happen overnight for them.
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Get to know your family. They will be more likely to stick around than all the gay men who will come into your life. Do that, before they’re all gone for good.
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Understand that not all gay men are alike. Some will wear makeup, some will hit the gym. Some will call themselves bi longer than they need to. It doesn’t matter. They all make for good friends.
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Don’t expect anyone else to make you happy.
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Go ahead and mess with you hair. Cut it, color it, curl it, shave it. It’s just hair, dammnit!
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Be careful whose advice you take, especially those coming from blog comments. You never know what they were drinking when they typed them in. But please, be patient. Being gay is not exactly the easiest thing in the world…
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But trust me on the hair wax.

gosh, i wish you could find someone who can satisfy your craving for companionship, i was once like you, i always felt the urge and eventually, i met the guy for me, there are so many temptations around and knowing that someone is there who fully understands and loves you makes you think twice if you’d ever have to have encounters again with other guys, like going to filthy cinemas, or going to parks and do the thing, time will come you will learn to accept who you really are, for now, you can explore and may your explorations lead to your enlightenment, just have to be ready with the consequences, good luck to you…

yey! first to comment…

by the way, ano bang mga binabasa niya migs? this kinda interested me kasi bisaya din ako eh. hehe

isa ka na nga sa amin.. walang dapat ikahiya.. kung si rustom(padilla) nga na sikat nakaya niya magladlad.. ikaw pa na sa lugar ninyo lang malalaman.. be proud your a gay… the future depends on you.. hahaha

siguro.. self-acceptance muna.. learn to love yourself. it’s hard to admit kung ano ka ba talga. pero, if ul deny or hide the true u,ul never be happy. how would othera accept u if you wont accept urself.. learn first to love urself, before looking for someone to love..

Definitely the guy is confused, but deep in his heart, he knows what he wants. My verdict is, he is already a homosexual.

The problem is, he is in the closet. He doesn’t want others to know of his sexuality. He fears that once people find out, he will be discriminated, disowned, degraded. It happens to all of us, who suddenly realizes one day (or night) that we’re not straight. Acceptance takes time and from the looks of it, he is far from accepting himself and his preference.

So what are the options I can suggest to him?

Gay websites could be of help, but I think he is already aware of it. I am not from Cebu so I don’t know the gay hang-out spots in that city. I guess what he could do is wait, and hope that he would find what he’s looking for very soon.

And yes, it’s difficult to be alone.

Maybe, reading other PLU stories would make him connected.

Acceptance takes time. And sometimes the best way to relieve such loneliness - of such confusion, is by listening to other gay men sharing their lives in the internet.

i’m confused too, like many out there… but that confusion could actually, already affirm that we are gay.

it’s just a matter of facing it.. and accepting ourselves. then, preparing to just go OUT. OUT to our families and friends if we truly want to be free…

you have actually stepped forward to being gay.. unlike me who is still a virgin (both straight and gay sex), at my age which has already passed mid 20s …

and by stepping forward, it is actually more difficult to go back.

sometimes I just envy those all - out gay guys.. or even those living a secret life and intimately sharing that secret life with someone.

my secret life is this.. just browsing gay sites.. but still stranded in my reality…

Nice letter.

Kung ako sa’yo, say what you are feeling to one of your friends. It’s better to have one friend who will listen than no one at all. Mahirap ikimkim ang lahat ng feelings sa sarili. Symepre, choose someone na alam mong makakaintindi sa’yo. Start from there.

Smile!

keep on reading and participate in discussions, so that you can at least feel part of an online community. you may also want to try writing in a diary or even blogging. this way, you can get things out of your system even if you’re only writing them down. i would recommend blogging more than the diary because you can be anonymous as a blogger and even get readers to comment on your posts. a diary can be found.

btw, try not to get too addicted to anonymous sex. aside from the possible health hazards, there are other dangers. for instance, some are not just after sex; some just want your money and are prepared to resort to blackmail to get it.

Yup, you’re gay. Welcome!

=)

I’d like to meet this guy, I think I can relate to him…

cya na ba migs ang sagot sa aking mga dasal???

sana ma meet ko cya d2 sa cebu at sana ako ang unang nag comment.

Welcome to a world of queers and fakes - II
Rachel Arora, 10 February 2008, Sunday

The term homosexuality might be a taboo in India but it does not mean that the society exists without the gay and lesbian folk. This
CHANGING LIFESTYLES, the concept of free marriages and spurting of an independent culture has given birth to a segment of society resorting to alternative lifestyles. This off beat rhythm entails some of the most magnificent details of the rebirth of a society waiting to be recognized. There was a time when gays and lesbians were considered to be some kind of sleazy creatures living in dingy alleys. This seems to have changed today. A specific segment of the Indian society thinks otherwise. For some homosexuality is a fad, for others it is natural, whereas a number of people adopt it simply because of peer pressure or they think it is trendy. There is another category that feels they are gays but in reality they are as straight as anyone else.

Sarthak Mehra, an engineering student says, “I am gay but that means I am attracted to men and not women. I hate those people out there who pretend to be something they’re not, especially bisexuals. They are oh so fakes! They live in a make believe world of illusions wanting to live life on a chimera. Little aware of the adversaries that are to follow.”

Kritika Desai (23) alias Kristy claims to bisexual. She feels it is normal for a person to be attracted to people belonging to both genders. She is in a steady relationship with Atul (27) and doesn’t mind having a fling with a girl or two occasionally. She says, “It gives me a high to be with a girl once in a while and boosts my confidence.”

Does this mean that it is fine to be in a relationship with more than one person at a time or is it again an illusion of the human mind? You might be physically involved with someone of two genders at the same time but the intensity of your feelings varies.

Rita Wong, a psychologist, says, “Some people are not homosexual but pretend to be because they want to create their own world and feelings. These people are often running away from something in life like a bad memory, incident or feelings. They take refuge in being someone they’re not. They have low self worth and often victimise others in an effort to gain sympathy.”

Rizwana Khan, a counselor, says, “It actually depends from person to person. Some people are genuinely attracted to people of the same sex while others fake it. This is usually because they are screaming for attention and it doesn’t matter how they get it. They just want to be noticed for something and find that declaring themselves gay or lesbian is enough to raise eyebrows in India.

“Another aspect of the society leads us to the fact that it is not only youngsters who are fascinated by homosexuality but people belonging to various age groups. The other day, I attended a party at one of the popular pubs of Chanakyapuri in New Delhi. I was surprised to find a number of middle aged gay men dancing to the tunes of younger men, kissing openly and ready to bare it all.”

The fizzle of smoke and cling clang of glasses didn’t conceal the fact that Indian metros are opening to the concept of homosexuality keeping a bold front. It is healthy to be in a relationship rather than not be in one.

Shreya Tewari says, “It is always better to get a negative stroke if not a positive one than not getting any stroke. The same is with being involved with someone of the same sex.”

Maya Trehan says, “Today, people are willing to come out of their shells and want to be accepted the way they are. In mid-age people tend to experience new things and this often propels them to become gay.”

Tushar Batra, says, “I have been married for the last 27 years. I love my wife very much and have seen all the highs and lows of life with her. But the fact is that over all these years I got bored with a woman and all of a sudden, one fine day, I stopped getting attracted to the female body. What surprised me was the fact that I would get excited thinking about men. I even met a couple of them through the Internet but could never sum up the courage to tell my wife about it. I don’t want to hurt her at this stage of life.”

No matter how advanced we become, we are not wiling to let go of our own fears and limitations. Does this mean that being homosexual can be controlled or is it simply that we want to give a blind eye to an issue that has a sensitive edge?

Vishnu Tyagi says, “We are still living in a society where people burn down cinema halls if a movie like Fire is released. We cannot open our hearts and minds to something, which might have been an integral part of our own society. The truth is that we are scared to accept things if they are shown to us in our face.”

Homosexuality is a way of life and it is not something abnormal. People attracted to those of the same gender are not evil or insane. They are just normal people who have regular needs, just that their sexual preferences are different. They too, demand respect, love and attention. While we might be far from accepting gay and lesbian lifestyles as the norm, we must acknowledge the fact that there is nothing wrong with them. Maybe, someday a spark ignites a revolution that leads to the birth of new ideals and a new law is passed.

(This is the second and last part of the two-article series on Homosexuality by the author).

isa na namang confused case …

nagtataka lang ako… kung bakit dumadami ang mga bakla eh din naman sila nanganganak. oi! huwag na kayong mag-illusion na may matris kayo!

paki sabi na lang sa letter sender basahin na lang niya mga archives ng MGG about the same topic. im sure makakakuha na siya ng sagot don.

pare-pareho na lang … kakasawa na tumalak. dami pang ma-eepal.

isinilang na bading,

anton maton - never been confused sa kabadingan.

i think we’re on the same boat. thing is, i dont act and look as if so lonely. i just hide what i feel. its hard sealing with everyone’s questions. lisod gyud kaayo bai. well, if you need someone to talk to (maybe of the same situation as yours), and if you want, text me. 09279624517.

oops. it’s dealing. not sealing.:)

I think you’re stil young p nmn.you’ll probably met someone dat you knw he’ll will accept u 4 who u are.In time u’ll realized who u rily are.I felt d same w/ u also,being lonely and having no one 2 b w/. but im very optimistic nmn n d ryt person wil come…

sikat na, fan mails are overflowing..seeking for attention

If you’re planning to meet new friends here in Cebu. Try Mango Square Mall at weekends. I should know, I’ve been there and I’ve discovered more and more “things”

Thanks, Migs…
This sure helped me a lot.
Probably, I really am gay but there are just a lot of things I can’t handle.
Is feeling depressed normal?
Or being lonely for that matter?
Tsk tsk tsk.
This is way too hard to handle but I am still thankful that I get to visit websites like this because it somehow eases the pain.
Or the “transition”.
@peppoi- thanks for the welcome but how come I have this certain “feeling” that I cannot seem to unravel? a sense of foreboding? Geez, or am I really confused?
@matt- you have an e-mail add? No, I may not be “the” answer but I can help you find it.
@jhongand northern sky- thanks dude, your comments really helped- BIG TIME.
@Bam- really? teach me the secret of not being lonely.
AND MIGS, great thanks…Really.

@ seige- Oh yeah, I’ve been there. It just makes me lonelier since I see people my age, my gender holding hands or talking.
I also went to this bar in the same area. I don’t think people look for companionship there; they need something else. And I don’t want a relationship to start solely on sex.
Or probably I am just being crappy.
@Xtopher-I wish I had your optimism. From the way I see it, you’re not lonely. Thank you for being optimistic for me.
@winterking- the article got me into thinking…

@jigenriztag- your lines: ” Don’t be too confused. What you are going through is pretty much normal and there is nothing wrong with it. You are normal and you are perfectly fine.”- thank you so much for the assurance.
And so, I am normal.
Great thanks.
@aries- and so you know what Colon has in store for us? Wierd but I cannot seem to stop from going there. It’s like I’m already glued. That’s why I promised myself if ever I find the person I am looking for, I will take every ounce of courage to stop. For him.

Not much can be said from your letter of being gay. I just think you need someone to talk to. Did you have a male bestfriend before where you were able to share insights with him. Sometimes you get confused of being gay but in fact you just wanted someone of the same sex to talk to. Iba kasi if guy ang kausap mo instead of a woman. You can share a lot of things in common to talk to. This might only be the issue here. Being BJ’ed- lots of high school guys went through this stage just for the heck of it but they’re not gay. Share more, maybe we’ll better know if you’re really gay.

so cute, yet so sad.

i love jedd’s advice! parang ‘wear sunscreen’ style!

but seriously, if you’re lurking in this site, chances are you are gay, the very least bisexual.

the feelings you experienced for your officemate could be one of the following: a true connection, a great friendship, a fabulous crush, an unrequited love, or just a guy-crush.

what is a guy-crush? a guy-crush is where you have a non-sexual and non-romantic admiration for a guy. it usually happens between 2 straight guys, but not limited to them.

if you are planning to hang out with gay and bi guys, there are a vast majority of places to find them. most are found in mango square.

but first, determine your reason for seeking them out. and ask yourself if they live the kind of lifestyle you prefer.

as for your friendship, enjoy it to the max. don’t freak out, don’t withdraw. celebrate yourself.

the most important thing is to be honest with yourself. you probably need to soulsearch to know yourself. once you do, you must learn to love yourself.

only when you can learn to love yourself, will others learn to love the real you.

happy valentine’s!

Kung relasyon ang hanap mo, you should know that whatever criteria you have set for that (supposed) special someone, maba-bypass lang yan. I guess you are just lonely and confused(?). We all have our vices and these vices are just the result whatever turmoil thats been lurking inside us. Having a friend (a real one mind you) would really help a lot.

I am from CEBU. If there’s anyone here experiencing the same thing, you may get in touch with me through my number, 09225467404. I am currently writing an article to be published in a Cebu-based magazine about coming out, confused and the proud gays.

follow up…

you’re not alone in feeling alone and lonely…

if you prefer, i can introduce you to some people who may be able to help you.

mrtrey77@yahoo.com

Really good comments from Jigen Riztag and Jedd.

hindi ko lang maintindihan kung paano ka naging “confused” when alam mo naman talaga kung anong gusto mo… peace

Aww… How sweet. I think you should follow what you feel especially towards that office buddy of yours. Who knows, he may just be as confused as you are.

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charot..iringa ko yut..day yopak kaau ning mga drama sa bayut sa? painosente? c’mon kid..u said you dont know places where gays hang out but you seem to know the way to eden cinema sa colon? again, iringa ko yut..

way to go kris aquino! i really enjoyed your comment coz i felt the same way gyud…hahaha…amards kaayo ning mga bayot sa? dugay na ko bayot but wala man gani ko kahibaw anang eden cinema sa colon…lupigan ko da! makasuway nya bi…hahaha!

mga yadge, kutob ra tawn ko sa navigator, club notes, tarzan boy, naughty ka ug kanang bag-o ron called club milkmen…hahaha…suwayi nya ni cebuano yuppie ha!

Sa mga oras na ito, malamang lalong naconfuse ang letter sender. Hahaha. Sa dami at haba ng mga comments na ‘to, sa pakiwari ko’y nagugulumihanan lalo ang kanyang magulong isipan.

Isa lang ang naman ang sagot sa kaguluhan ng isipan, at alam mo yan - muling eksamenin ang sarili at bago matulog pakaisipin ang sagot sa tanong na… “Sino ako?”

kris-aquino-kuno, sakto jud ka ana bayut.. nangilad jud ang bayut. kung ganahan mamayut, adto jud og colon? sus mga yadz, pag G4M na lang mo where there’s a lot of it.. and to top it all, if magkasabot, libre pa jud.

sa eden? ay na lang ta kay mangatol jud imong kigol diha tungod sa kuting.. hahaha!

…whew.
I didn’t know writing and sharing the storm raging in me would solicit various advices, comments and a few hurting lines.
I must admit though that this really helped me. I guess, I’ll take it from here…
If this is indeed my cross to bear, then I’ll start the sojourn.
“It is a time when one’s spirit is subdued and sad, one knows not why; when the past seems a storm-swept desolation, life a sad story and a burden, and the future but a way to death.

For all sad words of tongue and pen, the saddest are these, ‘It might have been.”
Mark Twain

P.S. Thanks for the comments, really and MIGS, yes, you’re right. World peace, it is.
@your_guy- I am just not sure if I can do that. Anonymous or not, it is painful to bare your real self to the world. Take a look at me, I am sadness and pain incarnate.
I thank you, though.

I wont judge you because I understand we all have different situations in life. My piece of advice is follow your heart. Do what makes you happy. Dont mind what other people will think, because in the end, it what makes you happy and feel complete that really all that matters. Inday and bag ko!!!

dear yuppie, just read nalang the desiderata… it helps

Desiderata
Max Ehrmann

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

from what i read in your letter it is apparent that you are no longer confused with your sexuality. for sure you know who you are. it’s just the environment around you that makes you “confused” whether to come out or not. it’s really difficult if you are already a professional because it could earn you gossips in the office. as for me i was outed to selected friends way back in college. perhaps i can give you the same advice, slowly or gradually introduce yourself to the real world. start it with friends who you know can respect you. and set your expectations that not all of them will be able to accept you immediately. it will also be a process for them. but at least give them an idea so it won’t be too difficult. as for that one person you just need to wait. don’t fuss. that person will soon come. or maybe that person will even help you accept the real you. right now, try to suffice the longing for talking to “persons with the same interest” here in MGG. i am one of your friends here who can always give you advice. although you are in cebu you can reach mne through my e-mail: sijiro_05@live.com

take it easy. don’t worry too much for everything shall be okay soon.

God bless you my friend!

Correct me if im wrong, but Confused Cebuano is NOT confused at all. He already knows he is gay and like/loves being gay. It appears that his problem is how and where to hook up with a guy that is almost if not exactly a replica of himself. I dont kow but it looks like narsicism to me. One advise: dont limit your choices, be open minded. You’ll be surprised, some people may be very different from you but could be more interesting. You know yourself very well already. You might get bored. So try exploring for something different. Be adventurous.

confusedyuppie, duhhhhhhhhhh………

sige drama oi… dili jud na katabang nimo bai (yut).

start to open up and be happy for what you are.

cguro imposible ng makauna sa pag comment dito… I thought ako na ang nauna :((

dapat may prize ang unang mag comment!!!

to confusedyuppie i’m sorry but i can’t publish(?) my email here but i think u can request it from Migs if you really want to…

salamat bai!

i’d rather be confused than depressed…

sob…

wag mo nalang intindihin ang mga negative things na sinulat ng iba…hindi ka tlaga maintindian ng iba (karamihan) dahil hindi cla dumaan sa pagiging confused. Bago pa cla pinanganak bading na cla!!! There’s nothing to be confused para sa kanila kc hitsura palang nila …yun na!!!

Parang na sense ko may mag react sa comment ko. Masakit kc ang katotohanan sana walang mapikon

peace, world peace!!!

Confusedyuppie,

If you seek to be delivered from homosexuality you may feel as if your prayers are not being answered. Every day may seem like a struggle. It is important for Christian struggling to be released from certain desires to understand that deliverance is a process, and it is often never instantaneous.
Sometimes deliverance from homosexuality is long and difficult, but have faith that God is with you every step of the way. Be patient and eventually you will see progress.
God bless!

Confusedyuppie,

I forgot to mention the website, so here it is. Try to visit this website:

http://christianteens.about.com/od/christianliving/a/deliverhomosexu.htm

Nothing is impossible with God.

Jesus loves you!

basta wla kang nasasaktan, inaabuso o ginagamit GO lang! di kasalanan maging bading. Pagkakamali mo bang makaramdam ng ganyan? Di naman, d ba? Tanggapin mo ng buo ang sarili mo, matututo kang rumespeto at magkaroon ng takot sa Dios upang sumaya ka. Darating din ang araw, makikita mo na lang yung taong mamahalin ka at mamahalin mo. Drama! Hehehe!

finally..

someone like me..

makadalaw nga sa city sa summer, hahanapin kita. tapos lets talk on the way to my hometown, argao

hehehe

nice one migs!

“I want someone whom I can have a relationship with. Someone from the same sex. I have had girlfriends but it’s really different when you kiss someone from the same sex or hold hands with. It’s just so different. I’ve met a lot of people who are like me but I feel that they’re only after sex.”
+++ does this sound confused to you?
i don’t think so.

Hello…

I’m from cebu too. Like you I’m confused. And like you, i fall in love with a bestfriend that is straight. and like you, i went to that cinema too. i haven’t tried any sex there though because im afraid… but there are times i want it too because i couldnt release this feelings i have inside… i love this friend so much… only to be hurt because he’s in love with someone else of the opposite sex. and it’s doubly hurting because he doesn’t know, no one knows im this.

it’s strange though we have similarities… perhaps we can talk thru email? i think of all the people here ur the one who can understand me because of the similarity of our situations. and we’re both of the same age!

Please do email me, biyernes_friday@yahoo.com.

i would say talk to someone that really knows u well,, and who would understand where ur coming from. explore but remember to be safe, analyze ur self. dont be carried away by ur emotions.. dont be in a hurrt, u must first accept who you are..

the rest would follow..

hi there cebuanoyuppie,
yuppie ka dude?heheh
me too! nyahahaha
bitaw uhhmmm…
i know jud na hurt ka sa ubang comments nila.. i’ve read all of it and even ako nasakitan pod..
it’s so easy for them to say things like “come out and be free!”.. maybe for them nga gipanganak na naa nay flower ang ears.. nyahaha basta dili jud saun..
im also confused.. (walay magbuot if mao na ako term kay that’s what i feel)
i’m also from cebu and im working in one of the best call centers here in cebu and especially that i’m into a technical support dept (nga ehem daghan au cute guys..nyahaha) it’s really not easy to come out.. mawad-an nya kog mga barkada.. samot kang ka lonely diba?
just manage ur feelings.. u’ll get used to it.. by the way, ayaw nalng gamit ug gatsbi na wax..heheh i don’t know why ing-ana.. that’s what i use now so maybe i should switch to some other types of hair style or something.. anyway, basta dude ayaw rag ka hurt nila.. ana jud na.. no one else could best define ourselves but only us..
everything happens for a reason..
if you want to have your own family in the future, i suggest that you should not come out kay lisod kaau dude..but if happy jud ka ma gay naa ra nah nimu..

btw, naa di i ing-ana sa colon? sure ka? kayata ana oi.. hehehe
never tried that..never been to gay bars too..although i wanna try but wa man koy kuyug gud..nyahaha
i wanna get intouch with you but im hesitant to post my info here kay ma-google raman gud.. i don’t want na naay makabalo.. bansay biya ko mutago..hehe im straight acting, it’s just so happen that im like bi, i guess, i don’t know, im confused, basta all i know is im happy with my girlfriend right now but im also happy surfing gay porns in the internet.. try here sa net cafe sa mango pod dapit.. very private and u can surf all you want.. ayaw na didto sa colon woi magkasakit ka ana.. but hey kinsa pd imung ka jer didto? nyahaha
cge dudes ingatz and gudluck nalng nato..
haay ana jud ang life cguro..just be positive..
till here..

cge email me nalng at lancepogszzz@yahoo.com and from there i can give you my friendster account para u can see me through my pics., hoping i may be able to see you soon too..

@ noturordinary:
Callboy.
Let me correct that “call center boy”.
Me too.
Anyway a few questions:
“just manage your feelings”- what do you mean by this? I think I have been trying but how come I end up feeling lonely and unfulfilled?
It’s good to know that someone out there is feeling the same way right now. It’s like an affirmation that what I am undergoing right now is but normal.
You’re right.
When you read some of these comments, you get hurt but it’s part of the process. The world needs to know that what I am carrying is too heavy for me. And for you, too.

You say “good luck”? No, what we need is hope that someday we find the purpose and sense to continue living without understanding why we bear this pain.
I want to get in touch with you.
I have a feeling you know very well what I feel. It’s summed up in one word: CONFUSING.
Still confused.

And yeah, I don’t use gatsby.
Try Tricks superhold.
It has enough strength and stickiness to hold your hair. And it’s good for aircon-ed rooms too. Your hair doesn’t get stiff once it dries. Still manageable.
Or whatever. *wink*

di ko ma gets bakit pumasok ang gatsby… been using it for a year already the light and natural!

na confused tuloy ako…tsk tsk tsk

i just hope you get past this as a renewed person rearing to face the world with much optimism…yun lang!…pareha tag edad and pareha tang galibog…paeta…see you around…

way to go buddy

curric anton! club milkmen ning? location ani? havent been there. club notes is closed “for renovation” daw..heheh duul man gud sa skul..sa naughty ka day,careful lang..hold up jud ang dating diha..so to this confuserang cebuano, let’s meet at these gaybars and you will realize mas haliparot pa diay ka naku..

jedd…

hahaha ang galing ah!

pero parang tula yan ni baz luhrman ah??? hmmm pero anyways ang galing

yuppie,

ayg kabalaka daghan na ta…
basta kay pagingon lang bisag isa sa imong mga friends, im pretty sure they will be there for you.

Pray pray pray thats the best you can do and seek solace in the comfort of GOD’s presence.

…I’m doing fine, now.
This sure helped me a lot.
Thanks to everyone who commented.
Good or bad, you deserve my thanks!

P.S. Cliche-ic as it may seem, I finally found someone…

How I can relate. I almost saw myself…

Confused Cebuano Yuppie

Hope u were able to read my letter to migs (A-thousand-a-night life)

Im based now in Cebu, maybe u want to get in touch with each other, maybe we can help each other in any way we can!

fatboyslim

Btw, my email address is

fatboyslimden@yahoo.com

We can be each others emotional support!

hi…

im also from cebu…

for some reasons, i wanna meet you…

hope we can be friends…

shatteredwack@yahoo.com…

mao na ako e.add, just send me a message…

aight… GOD BLESS…

.Instant celeb si confusedyuppy. Hehehe. When i get to cebu this coming july i’ll go try colon. Hehe….

hi there… i’m also here in cebu… and i also tried going to those cinemas… yesterday, i was about to go inside one cinema house to watch “Kulam” (oppss, clue na yan), there were police outside… i turned around and went home… well anyways, i’m still kinda new here in cebu… if you like, we can share thoughts sometime… here’s my email, govjohnnybravo@yaho