I think you’re right. Wawa naman ung girl partner. Paano na ung kaligayahan nila? Gay guys just need to be true sa mga sarili nila.

how many gays here like jim? i understand him.

Amen! Actually, hindi nakakapang hinayang ung 7 years nila kasi it was in the first place, all lies (maybe not all of it pero a HUGE part of it!). In that 7 years puros pagpapanggap ang ginawa nya. Tha saddest part is hindi lang yung wife nya ang niloloko nya kundi pati ang kanyang sarili.

Siguro, kung gusto talaga nyang makipag-balikan sa wife nya, i-open nya yung totoong pagkatao nya tanggapin man sya o hindi ang importante naging honest sya. Besides, hindi naman biro ang 7 years.

Have great weekend!

@Migs, thanks po for gracing my blog with you presence. hihihihi

i agree. women - straight women don’t deserve to be in a relationship where a guy tries to hide his true sexual preference just because he doesn’t accept himself as a gay guy. c’mon guys, be proud of your sexuality. we’re gays, and we are born to be gay and proud. we are entitled with it!

but somehow i understand him, but fooling a girl just because you want to have a baby of your own? that’s like so unfair for the girl.

Amen ako nyan! Based from my own personal experience, totoo lahat ang sinasabi mo about how an honorable gay man should live his life. Para sa akin rin, I respect those who know they are gay but who live a straight life, with wives and kids but never had any homosexual acts with another guy or even think about guys when masturbating and having sex with their wives. Haha. I’m not sure. I guess it’s just my imagination. Di ako sigurado if may mga taong ganito sa mundo or maybe I am just making illusions. Basta, the point is nakakasuka ang magkunwari and live a double-life. Oo nga naman, spare the women, bakla!

i havent written you in a long while. i havent seen a post that evoked as strong passions as i did reading this one. I have to say–NAKAKAIRITA ANG PAGIGING SELFISH NIYANG KAIBIGAN MO.

im gay. i went through a confused stage. but mygawd—CONFUSION IS NO LICENSE FOR SELFISHNESS—UNDER NO CIRUCMSTANCES.

ang sama sama ng ugali niya. babalik rin sa kaniya ang kasamaan at kasakiman a pagkaganod niya. hinde niya na inisip yung asawa niya—who deserves to be with someone who will make her happy and who will be truthful to her. ok lang sana if the wife knew—at mapapalampas ko kung sa first BF ni jim eh talagang di niya nasabi sa wife niya. but mygawd—7 years and 3 boyfriends later?! and he still wants kids with this wife? whats your excuse?
ang kapal ng mukha mo mo jim! ang kapal kapal kapal ng mukha mo! hayup ka.

anong nagawa sa iyo ng babaeng iyan? pinikot ka ba niya? she had better made you pikot because nothing would come close as an acceptable excuse to 7 years of lies! and the deception continues.

youre obviously way past confused already- you already know who you are. why did you have to deceive her? why did you have to be selfish.

jim, matakot ka sa diyos—not because youre gay—but because manloloko ka. niloko mo ang isang walang kamuwang muwang—you thought only of your happiness.

when you got past your confusion—you witholding information from your wife just turned to deception.

you otta be shot dead.

We live our life once. Try to be true and try to be happy, every minute unwasted to pretensions. Jim, with ur open mind i knw ul get through.. Undrstand urself 1st and ul knw d next step. Gud circle of friends wil help u along ur way. But u urself knws what is best for u and what ur wife deserves.. - 09295101510 - 1st timer here.. Regards migz

we think they don’t know, but they do.
in the end, may everyone have the strength to hold what is true.

if a gay man wants to be in a relationship with a woman FOR WHATEVER REASON, he must divulge his sexual orientation. if he intends to keep seeing men, he must divulge this also. if she is okay with that, then that’s her lookout. but he must lay all his cards on the table.

I know a couple of guys who are like him. In my twisted delusions, I could be in a relationship with chicks if I want to, but nah, I’d rather stick to being a homosexual.

As gay Filipino men, most of us are guilty of devious machinations by our homosexual mind set; schemes intended to preserve a perception, by the society, of our own male heterosexuality. Nurtured by a homophobic, hypocritical society, the average young Filipino gay male has no recourse but to (1)hide his true sexuality, conform to social norms, and put up a front, (2)be the flamboyant, outwardly feminine male with a nonchalant attitude, or (3)be the timid, social outcast, defenseless against peer ridicule and taunts. It is not surprising that the rate of gay teens committing suicide is higher than the rest of other teen groups in the States.
These things have to happen:
1. Social Acceptance
2. Acceptance of the male homosexual of his own sexuality.
3. Education and religious tolerance.
I suspect, as with all significant social changes, that social acceptance will take several generations to complete itself, paralleling the phenomenon of white society’s acceptance of minority (specifically, African -American) rights. However, these three factors will have to be happening side by side to facilitate the evolution process.

kaloka, ang daling sabihin para sa’yo. ano ba ang kaibahan natin sa straight, nangangaliwa din naman sila. Kung gusto lang niyang magkaanak, keri pa rin, basta hindi yun lang ang intensyon niya. pakialamerang hitad ‘tong si migs.

gusto nyo ba lokohin ng isang BAKLITA ang kapatid ninyong babae? NOT ME…

Amen! And wanting to have a baby is a pathetic excuse. I think his wife has a right to know, and being the husband, it is also his responsibility to tell her that he’s gay.
What he’s doing, in my opinion, is abusing his wife’s trust. Especially when he’s (pardon the term) fucking around on her.
If he wants a baby that bad, I think he must find a woman who will be willing to do what he requires.

to eldo: you missed the point, honey. .
to jim: selfish, selfish. . mag ampon ka na lang..

naloloka lang ako sa nagsabi jan nang kadulo duluhan is a plea for understanding a selfish guy by condoning is infidelity. the issue here isnt just jim’s infidelity to the wife. the issue here is the 7 year-3 boyfriend lie he’s perpetuated. he’s deceiving her. ang punto lang dito is walang lokhan. walang gulangan dapat.

@eldo ~ APIR! my sentiments exactly. Talaga namang KENGKAY ang hitad nato. Pinasaringan pa AKO. Tignan natin kung sino ANG tunay na MAGINOO.

i couldnt agree more.. to sum it up, if your gay live a gay life, dont pretend or even use other people to cover it up… gay and straight relationship.. never works… pity the wife, shame on jim. Though on the other hand im hoping someday my dream straight guy will love me in return HEHEHEHEHWE.. im a fool for straight men.. i like sex with gay guys but its so hard for me to be inlove with them…. hmmm i wondered. ( this comment is totally contradicting )

kalokah kayo lahat!

I know we have ideas of how one should live somebody’s life, pero tingin ko we dont have the right to judge anyone. Mapuwing sana ng batong kasinglaki ng stonehenge ang unang taong mamuna sa kapwa!

Ang payo ko lang, maging totoo lang tayo sa ating mga sarili. If people dont accept you for being you, it is their f*****g problem and not yours. Karma is real, mga lola. Whatever you do comes back to you.

Kalokah talaga. Daming moralista!

“Honorable gay men are honorable men in the first place. They do what is right, and struggle to avoid what is wrong, without excuses.”

That is so correct and we should always respect and think of others.

@eldo: do you even know what you’re saying? and yes, we are far different from the straight guys.

and jimq29, this is also for you.

for those who want to continue a life of deception…JUST BE SAFE! you don’t know what you’re giving your poor unsuspecting wives/girlfriends…OR BE READY WITH THE CONSEQUENCES. Pag nagkatulo yan or something even WORSE (and i DONT HAVE TO TELL YOU SISTER) BUKINGKING DIN KAGAGAHAN NYO. Ayt ladies…carry on!

Isa lang masasabi ko… MIGS!!! HELP!

at the end of the day we can all rant at what jim did but we should let him be like all other gay husbands or gay guys in the closet. the last thing we need is to be preached when we are in a society that blabbermouths all the time about our so called sinful lifestyle. we showed jim the alternatives and he made a choice.

talaga, kaya nga i did not get married kc i do believe its very unfair to d girl, unless she knows and understands d whole situation.

Point taken Migs!

gays can be civilly liable if they get married and not perform their marital duties including regular sex with their wives. they can also be liable for torts and damages arising from failure to comply from marital duties.

It’s not unfair to the girl as long as honest ka sa kanya sa umpisa pa lang> I told my wife before we got married about me and my past and she understands. Sabi lang niya Sana wag ka ng makipag relasyon sa lalaki which I said yes. I never do it with guys anymore at 5 years na kami and I can say na I am a happily married gay. I can see naman she is happy also. What is very hard is to be alone and lonely lalo pang mahirap pag wala kang ipon, lagot ka na.

gud for u mgay! way to go baby…ummm keep it up?

Once gay will forever be gay

It’s not right and it will never be right to destroy someone’s life just because he can’t make up his mind. Spare the women, please lang ha.

I understand about jim’s situation, he was in the critical situation, facing the fact he’s confused. As we go deeper and analyze the situation its realy hard and all of the negative thinking will lead on it.

Lets make things be simple for jim. Of course we ourselves would like to know more about this and one of a kind homosexual problem although lots of different problems comes along the way. Lets take this as a lesson and this will give us a moral advice very essential and become aware of it. Learn the lesson of others.

What im saying is simplify the problem. Meaning, we dont know if jim has a immediate family to rely and confide his problem. Let Jim allow himself to release all the pressure, pain, heartache,confusion by himself. After all jim will be the one can solve his problem.

its hard to live alone, but its a lot harder to live with someone and still feel lonely… life is not fair whether you’re gay or straight, if you live in fear of being old alone, you hinder yourself from being really happy, and you end up making your life and OTHERS’ equally miserable… instead of fooling yourself and others by having all the ideals of a straight life(wife, kids, etc.), why not fill your life with friends who understands you no matter what, and find that special someone whom you would really want to spend your life with…