The 27-Year-Old Gay Matrona
Mac-mac, a long-time buddy and the only one among my friends who consistently calls me ‘Teh (Ate, or older sis), invites me over to this little-known burger place along one of the quieter streets tucked along busy Morato in Quezon City. Masarap ang burger dun, pati na yung pasta. Winner, teh!, he beams. I know Mac-mac as an artiste, and a little bit anti-mainstream so I got interested. Plus of course I was hungry. Picked him up in nearby Timog Avenue and in moments, we were there. Franz Burger. Yes the food was good enough, I even took some photos because I thought the place was great for EBs (eye-ball, blind, first-time meetups for online buds) as it was very discreet and private yet with a little bit of spunk and character.
In this surprisingly cozy ambiance, Mac-mac blurts out, may kuwento ako ‘teh. I’m reserving it for this kind of moments, sabi niya. Aba, I thought to myself, may bagong chika ang lola ko. So while gobbling up chunks of my delectable bacon mushroom cheeseburger, I was eagerly listening to Mac-mac’s anti-mainstream tale… a taste of being a gay matrona, all at a youngish age of 27. Keribelles? Then read on.
The Start
Mac-mac arrived home finding his housemates and several others in the common area of their apartment. Inuman itu. Naturally, he joined the fun session, and that’s where he met Joey (not his real name), a straight guy. He’s 19 years old, slightly stocky, but has tons of sex appeal, according to Mac-mac. While he found Joey pretty attractive and interesting, Mac-mac my friend did not really mind the guy, as he (Joey) was straight. The inuman went on and ended, and the whole group decided to just sleep over, with Joey dozing off beside Mac-mac. No, nothing happened that night, Joey still behaved. And so did Mac-mac.
Familiarity breeds contempt
The familiarity that developed during the inuman session first showed its fangs the morning after. Mac-mac was playful and so while still in bed he was kidding around with everyone. Including Joey. That was their first physical contact — with Mac-mac hugging teddy bear Joey, playfully. And Joey was cool with it. After breakfast the gang decided to gallivant in Trinoma. Anti-mainstream Mac-mac declined saying he’d rather stay home and rest some more. Everyone else, including Joey, left for Trinoma. Moments after the group left, Mac-mac received a text message. “Sumama lang ako sa kanila kunwari, pero hintayin mo ako diyan. Babalik ako. Gimik tayong dalawa.” It was from Joey.
Gimik and the Kiss
Mac-mac knew there was something going on. But he suspended his disbelief and pretended everything was all for jovial friendship eklavu. Joey and Mac-mac went bonding even after that first gimik moment they had sans their other kainuman. In a short span of time Mac-mac felt good about the budding “buddy” relationship. There were kilig moments too, Mac-mac related. One time he woke up after a late afternoon siesta in the apartment with a sweet smack in his lips. It was Joey, naglalambing. Another time, Joey surprised Mac-mac with a stem of rose. Slowly Mac-mac was liking what was developing.
Favors
It went on for sometime until Joey seemed to feel more comfortable spilling his personal issues with Mac-mac. It was when Joey was applying to be a crew at a fastfood chain and needed some money to tide him over for his application requirements. Mac-mac the friendly one went naturally to the rescue. That favor was to be followed by several other “requests” from Joey. Mac-mac has become Joey’s go-to Momma.
Friends to the rescue
Friends started to remind Mac-mac about his trysts with Joey. Apparently Joey was not tight-lipped to their friends about the whole thing. Mac-mac was surprised that their friends knew what was going on. They were unanimous in advising Mac-mac to cut the relationship. At first he was justifying it by thinking the money he gives is benefitting the guy in good ways — he was able to fulfill his job requirements and thus, “may work na siya ngayon,” Mac-mac proudly beams. Until a friend told him, “nag-a-addict yan.” That was Mac-mac’s wake up call. He suddenly realized how Joey was actually asking for more than just his survival needs. “Hinihiram niya yung iPod ko one time,” Mac-mac recalls. It dawned on him that Joey was hungry to live a life of luxury that he couldn’t afford with his own means. Kaya kumuha ng Momma.
Subok lang.
From then on, Mac-mac did not entertain Joey’s advances anymore. Subok lang sa pagiging matrona, he says. At least alam ko na how it feels even at this young age. Charge to experience.
Towards the end of Mac-mac’s sharing, I was conscious not to give the impression that I was judging him. In fact I was amused with his story. I learned something from his experience. The guy was open to experience life even to the point of wallowing on something most people frown at. What’s great about Mac-mac is that he’s also open to adjust and change his ways once he realizes there is a better way to go. Conventional wisdom does not laud the Mac-macs of this world — and in this aspect I differ. The Mac-macs of this world may not be popular but they are the ones who I can say, next to experience, are the best teachers.
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April 29th, 2008 at 11:57 am
Naka score ba si Mac-mac kay Joey?
If not,..there was no experience to charge!
Sayang lang….heheheh.
All gays’ get through this experience. Aminin….
But hats off to Macmac for knowing when to quit before things got deeper.
April 29th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
…pahabol po.
magkano ang burger?
looks “supa dalicious”.
April 29th, 2008 at 12:29 pm
nakakarelate ako, as in gusto ko rin ng ganyan, feeling gay matrona, pero sobrang higpit ng boyfriend ko sa akin, i can’t even experiment anymore….
April 29th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Mac mac
Pwede ka bang itake home with the burger?
Hahahahaha!
Anyway, I admire macmac for “waking up” from his experience with Joey. Marami ang nagpapaka gago sa sex with a straight guy. At least narealize ni Macmac habang maaga na ginagamit lang sya ni Joey.
Macmac, Keep up the burger joint! Who knows u might find someone TASTY their in ur resto!
April 29th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Mao jud!
April 29th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
cge ipakilala sa akin itong joey na ito ‘cuz i don’ tmind spendin’ a few couple of thousand dollars on him…pkibaba kilay mo ‘neng…
April 29th, 2008 at 12:54 pm
At least maaga dumating ang wake-up call nya. At di gaanong malaki yung damage (if ever meron). BTW, the place looks cozy at mukhang masarap nga yung burger.
April 29th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
i am in a same situation right now…baby (as i fondly call him) is also 19 years young…he was abandoned by his parents….he came from a middle class family somewhere in the mountainside..i’m trying so hard to give him a life that he used to have…he deserves it kasi sayang siya kung magpapaka-puta…if i’ll have more time, i’ll send our story to migs….thanks.
April 29th, 2008 at 12:57 pm
Ganyan ang nangyayari when we’re showing to much kindness to others. Fortunately, Mac-mac’s “wais” enough to wake up from his dream.
April 29th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
badingga72
u said “…kasi sayang siya kung magpapaka-puta…”
Ano ba ginagawa mo? Dba ur giving him all the money he need in return for sex? Ano tawag mo sa ginagwa mo sa kanya…
Give a man fish for a day and he will have food for today. Teach a man how to fish and you give him food for a lifetime.
(something to dat effect)
Tama, sayang naman kung mapupunta sa iba!
April 29th, 2008 at 1:19 pm
tama ka jan joms, if u showed kindness and generosity , they will take advantage of it. Friendly users ba. ay naku! sana magising na ang iba jan noh.
April 29th, 2008 at 1:40 pm
mac-mac made the right choice! mataas ang tingin niya sa sarili niya — which is good! may there be good mac-macs in this world.
April 29th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
oo nga charge to experience na lang. naging joey din ako dati pero ang kinaiba ko lng sa kanya, di ako nag addict. When I say, I need the money, need ko tlaga pero kung hindi, di naman ako nanghihingi.
April 29th, 2008 at 1:46 pm
@meow yaw - “Naka score ba si Mac-mac kay Joey?”
* Hindi, conservative kasi ako.
@ fatboyslim - “Macmac, Keep up the burger joint! Who knows u might find someone TASTY their in ur resto!”
* HIndi sa kin yung resto, though you’re right, I found someone TASTY dun kahapon. hehe magkikita kami bukas… abangan… sana lang di na ito part 2 ng mac mac - joey story hehe
April 29th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
i hate guys… especially the young ones, who think that gays are just matronas… tsktsk
April 29th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
at least you just lost your money and some vaulable times to him. the intangible ones are the more difficult to loose (self-respect, value, friendship).
well many plu undergo this stage.
too bad you didn’t score any hehe.
April 29th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
same type of rice just different seller,, I was on the same situation before and good thing I went away and had the chance to zoom out and look at the situation in whole and to be honest I thought it would never happen to me pero wala gumastos den pala ako. But with me it was with a waiter and I was the one who approach the person, bangersya na kasi.. First, request nya d ko na grant kase namn either tanga sya or amateur mambobola 700 daw for kuryente bill ,, HALLER kuryente bill,, all I gave sa kanya was an A for the effort but nothing monetary anyway things like this I guess happen for a reason para matauhan ang mga katulad nyo (nagmalinis ba) but I also learn something nice that it feels great to be treated very special,,
p.s. no sex involve OK I’m to young for that type of thing I’m only 20.. Churiso!!
April 29th, 2008 at 4:41 pm
…no comment
(Couldn’t get my mind off the burger and pasta while reading the story…)
April 29th, 2008 at 4:46 pm
@ mac-mac
sana u found someone that will love you and share with you happy moments, not someone like joey na addictus!
im happy that ur not stucked with joey.
April 29th, 2008 at 4:47 pm
mukhang magandang cruising place itong burger joint na ito ah!
macmac found joey, and another guy whom he’s going to meet
GUYS,
PUNTA NA! MALAY NYO YOU MAY BE ABLE TO FIND THE RIGHT ONE FOR YOU THERE!
April 29th, 2008 at 4:51 pm
itreat lang ako ng burger ni macmac masaya na ako! Hahahahahaha!
Pwede na rin JUMBO HOTDOG! Hahahahaha!
April 29th, 2008 at 5:40 pm
macmac
san k dun?
i love that place!!!
April 29th, 2008 at 7:26 pm
Guys, read “Tony Perez’s Cubao 1980: The First Shout of Gay Liberation in the Philippines” at http://www.socyberty.com/Gay-&-Lesbians/Tony-Perezs-Cubao-1980-The-First-Shout-of-Gay-Liberation-in-the-Philippines.112781
April 29th, 2008 at 9:56 pm
nakaka-relate ako. ang masesay ko lang . . . pag masakit na sa loob mo ang magbigay . . . it’s time to give up on the guy.
April 29th, 2008 at 10:05 pm
when money matters come into play in any relationship, specially when it’s not on an even keel, the relationship is doomed to start with. remember to always ask for collaterals when giving a loan. it’s no fun being an enabler.
April 29th, 2008 at 11:24 pm
Nice story. Typical and dubious. Nag plug ng burger joint at kung ano pa ang mga pwedeng gawin at i-order sa naka showcase na place (EB, date, blind date.). May picture at location pa! Hmmm. Makapunta nga one time. Hehehehe.
April 30th, 2008 at 12:54 am
ako din i had the same experience buhuhuhuhuhu pero bata pa ako… di ako olosyang
April 30th, 2008 at 9:10 am
nice place!!!
pa-burger ka naman!
burger! burger! burger!
ahihihi
April 30th, 2008 at 11:00 am
hahaha! i can totally relate. once pinag-shopping ko pa ang guy who’s totally gorgeous so i said to my stupid self ‘deserving naman siya’ kasi nga pang-trophy boyfriend siya. matronang matrona talaga ako, lol. ngayon, natuto na ako. enough na ang isang pares ng rubber shoes. pag humingi pa ulit, baboo! chos!
April 30th, 2008 at 11:03 am
to fatboyslim:
it’s not that i’m justifying things, pero di ba sayang ang isang tao kung walang guidance from someone who could also be a good provider? sayang nga kung mapupunta siya sa iba, most especially kung yung iba ay “pure sex” lang ang gusto…in my case, pangit man pakinggan but later on we found love because of our constant togetherness and extra closeness..we share the same passion in sports, and basically lifestyles that make us comfortable like we’ve never been with others. I’m proud to say that I’m trying so hard to nurture a relationship that would later on be the basis of what happiness is really all about for me….I’m ready to face condemnation, ridicule and abuse, but one thing for now is sure - I’ve found someone to light my days and warm my nights…there’s sincerity, love and care…my money is just an accessory that makes our relationship more enjoyable….
April 30th, 2008 at 11:45 am
sinasamantala ng mga lalaking yan ang kahinaan nating mga bading. pero hindi ba’t maligaya naman tayo sa kanilang ginagawa? bakit? mabibili ba ng P1,000 or P10,000.00 ang naramdaman mo kahit kaplastikan lang ang ipinakita sa yo? hindi naman ikaw nag niloko. sarili niya lang ang niloko niya nang pinasakay ka niya at ginamit for his own advantage. to you mac-mac… life goes on.. tama ka. “charge it to experience”. pera lang ang nawala sa yo.. nadagdagan naman ang lessons mo sa pakikitungo sa mga taong nakapalibot sa yo at NALAMAN MO KUNG SINO ANG TUNAY MONG MGA KAIBIGAN AT KASISTER!!!
April 30th, 2008 at 9:02 pm
matalino man ang bading… NAPEPERAHAN pa rin!.. nyahahahahahahaha…
=D
April 30th, 2008 at 11:11 pm
there really are guys who would take advantage of us gays. di na talaga yon mawawala sa society natin. kahit ako, at the early age of 18 eh naging azucarera de mama. but i had no complains. the boylet gets what he wants, i get what i want. dba? hehehehe
April 30th, 2008 at 11:37 pm
Sexuality has been used historically by man or woman as an economic tool. Men and women use their charms to get what they want. I’m not surprised with a straight guy doing not so straight things, assuming he was straight at all.
On the other hand, poverty has also been exploited as a political tool, wittingly or unwittingly. I do not deplore Mac mac because it is within his liberty to tolerate Joey’s advances. As long as Mac gets what he wants, it’s fine. Remember it was Joey who offered himself.
Call me deviant but power relations titillate me.
May 1st, 2008 at 3:32 am
Hi mac mac…
It’s good that u woke up at the earliest time. Otherwise, this person will just broke u emotionally and financially. This kind of people will try eveything to get their way. Esp. when it comes to money matters. I believe that, when an individual tries to be friendly, saying sweet things and etc…Theres nothing wrong about it. But when the conversations reach the point were monetary value is envolved. I reckon we must think many times with regards to their sincerity. In fairness, the burger looks yummy…
May 1st, 2008 at 2:31 pm
Its Ok Mac2,di naman matatapatan ng kahit anong halaga ang naging kaligayahan mo ng mga time na magkasama kayo ni Joey.Kasama sa buhay bakla ang mga ganyan me kaibigan nga ako pinag aral pa niya mula 2nd year high school hanggang makatapos ng Management sa Kolehiyo ang naging boyfriend niya ,so whats wrong with that as long as ikaw ang nakatulong kesa ikaw ang nang agrabyado ng kapwa ,Good Karma is waiting for you Mac2.Hindi masama ang tumulong lalo na kung walang kapalit.Ang pera kinikita yan pero ang kaligayahang makatulong sa kapwa ay bihira sa mga taong me ganyang kalooban.Later you will realize e ano ba naman yung konting nawala sa yo pero at least ang dignidad mo intact pa rin.Pag naka pag abroad ka rin masasabi mo sa sarili mo barya barya lang pala kaligayahan sa Pinas.Totoo yan.At wag manghinayang sa barya ineng.
May 2nd, 2008 at 2:06 am
hay naku!!! same experience din ako. latest na latest. dinala ko pa sa baguio para sa date but ending di ako naka-score!!! why wrong timing, nalungkot si papa at nag-split sa gf!!!iyak ng iyak ba naman? from the start naman e alam ko na may gf pero still go pa din ang lola. the whole baguio ended up consoling him for losing his gf at di ko na-enjoy ang event ko sana!!! kun todo gastos pa ako!!! pero ayaw mag-pascore kc mapifeel mo naman. nag promise me bayaran ko araw nya just to accompany nya ako lang. 19 yr old guy din. pero pakiramram ko at the end of baguio trip bumigat so this is a sign that i have to let him go na. prior to this may unti unti na binibigay ako. nagpaparamdam ng need sa money pero di kona wait pa magsabi, initiative ko nalang mag-give. I feel good in giving him money but i feel emptiness naman, di ko nabawi puhunan eh!!!
May 2nd, 2008 at 9:53 am
one valuable lesson learned: never mess up with a straight guy. *wink
May 2nd, 2008 at 2:56 pm
better not to romanticize sex-for-pay relationships. the thing is, gays have a tendency to cloud the picture by thinking they’re helping out (being altruistic) and being kind, but ultimately it’s an economic relationship over being a “love” relationship. of course, the other party (presumably straight)wants the gay to think otherwise para di buking ang perahan. if gays can look at the gay-straight sex-for-pay rel as it is, then they won’t cry so much if they’re getting their money’s worth naman. kung nakuha mo yung kaligayahan na inasam mo, then be glad. kung hindi naman, well, be vigilant next time.
May 3rd, 2008 at 2:55 am
well para sakin mabuti nlng tlga matalino si mac mac well ung akin nmn kasi nkilala ko lng sa gateway ngwowork xa sa abs cbn paminta xa ganda manamit pero nung npapansin ko parang ginagamit nya lng me para mkagimik xa tpos namimilit pang manlibre sana kung striahgt xa no eh di nmn so tpos ang turing ko lng sa kanya is friends lng pero pag sa txt di gnun ung turing nya may pa baby baby pa xang nllmn well di ko sineeryoso kasi gang txt lng xa gnun pero pag ngkikita na di na lol hahahha grabe kaloka tpos aun ngsatllite kmi tapat ng P1 well aun habang ngiinum kmi may pupuntahan lng daw xa sa P1 then babalik din daw xa eh cno kasam ko dun mginom sana kung npakabilis nya bumaik eh hinid after 30 min 3 beses pa nya ginawa haaaa grabe! gang sa ako lng ngbayad ng bill then ngalit me tpos inaask ko xa kung gusot pa nya uminom dahil naiinis na ko nginom kmi sa P1 then gnun nnmn ung ngyri hahah iniwan nnmn ako ngsandali gang s uuwi nlng me magisa. haaay kabadtrip marmi pa ko kwento kya lng prang nkakatamd na naiinis lng me. kala mo kung umasta str8 xa haaay… un lng po
May 3rd, 2008 at 2:57 am
meron ba tlga nun paminta na parang gumagamit lng ng tao para sa kanyang happines?nakakainis isipin kala ko str8 lng ung gnun..nkakahiya tlga xa di mn lng xa nhiya!
May 7th, 2008 at 3:15 pm
gays are not girls… sorry folks … be realistic about the situation. pwede ba pumatol and isang straight guy sa isang gay if not for some consideration . .. like money??? think again. kung bulahin mo ang straight guy at nakuha mo pareho rin yan ng isang staight na binola ng isang gay at nakuha nya…there are gays na type nila ang tunay so willing na rin silang magbayad para lang ma satisfy ang libog nila. lets not be so pretentious naman mga lola!!!!
May 7th, 2008 at 7:26 pm
mac-mac that’s a great story.. very brave.. hanga ako sayo pare.. “,v
May 8th, 2008 at 8:44 am
Sobrang nakakarelate ako…Minsan nahuthutan din ako ng sobra…Masaya pero more than two years din ako nag paloko, good thing, it ended agad bago ako lumagunos sa pagkabaon sa utang…
June 6th, 2008 at 10:27 am
i hate to be a gay matrona…as in datis lang kelangan….sympre pa effect cla na love ka nila…omg…ur pocket lang pala is there habol…but if Love tells i wanna go for it…but for gud ok..