Well, DDUUHHH! No need to state the obvious. There’s nothing new or profound revealed here.

This is so true, parang nakaka-relate nanaman ako dito. Thanks for posting this one. I have a boyfriend whom I have been with for four years. Lately, I met a guy na sobrang na-attract at first sight ako, o malamang nalibugan lang siguro ako. Feeling ko, love na love ko siya at panay ang paload ko sa kanya at panlilibre ng meryenda sa canteen. There was even a point na I wanted to end the relationship with my boyfriend, pero may fear na sayang naman ang four years naming pagsasama. I am still totally madly in-love with this other guy although I know it’s obvious na binobola bola lang niya ako at kung minsan ay di ko rin matanggihan sa mga hinihingi niya lalo na nang malaman niyang dead na dead ako sa kanya. I am still confused. I want to write my story in full details soon…haaay, ang hirap talaga maging bading….

naku poh! ang lalaki talaga d maaalis ang nature ng pagiging POLYGAMOUS kahit anu pa ang sexuality nya…

Something new, bright and shiny will always be more attractive at the onset. Nothing new there. Though there will come a time in a man’s life when dependability, trust and stability becomes more important than passion or lust. We can’t really say when that time will come, as it must in every man’s life, because it changes from person to person. Some call it maturity, others might call it a change of heart. Doesn’t really matter what one calls it.

The decision to be together is easy but the relationship itself is a lot of work The question people forget to ask when going into a relationship is not the whether they can be a couple, rather they forget to ask themselves if they are, as an individual person, ready to commit to a relationship and be ready for the work in progress that it will be.

just be faithful. it encompasses everything else.

The problem with us is that we tend to think that relationships exist as they were in the start. The reality is that love changes as time progresses. Flowers and chocolates are only in the beginning. In order to maintain a relationship, one must accept what your dream guy is not. Good things are only in the beginning. Soon, you’ll see the negative side of your partner. This is the part that we need to understand because only then will we truly comprehend what sacrifice and love is. We should also maintain a good friendship from the start because when lust disappears, that’s the only thing you could hold on to. I noticed that people today think that it’s very easy to pick a new one when we become bored with our partners. Our world today lacks martyrs. We think that it’s a trend to have as many partners as possible. But in the end, we’ll realize that we need only one person that we could share the rest of our lives with…

I have been in the situation, and its true that sometimes may pagkukulang yun partner kahit sobra sobra na bininigay nya… Though its not an excuse to cheat… It is also proven na di pa rin money that will make you happy… We talked about the problem and we compromise and set our limits…. exclusive to each other is important… Stick with your partner and for sure that will make you happy in the long run… now were on our 5th year next month.. i agree with Bob Garon… cheers to all!

well said Adrammelech.

thanks Migs sa pagpopost nito.

infidelity is inevitable. once there is a hole that needs to be filled (no pun intended), it’s human nature to look for that one thing to make yourself feel complete.

this is an excellent piece.

infidelity is a selfish act…inevitable? no. you may be tempted to do so but self-control together with respect,love and acceptance towards your imperfect partner will drag you away from being unfaithful.

infidelity is not inevitable. Pag dalawang santa santita ay naging mag bf at contented naman sila sa isa’t isa magiging faithful talaga ang relationship nila. But that never happens. hehehe.

Pero lagi naman nang yayari ang nagkakatuluyan, isang martyr at isang demonyo.

Hay. Like me. Lagi nalang player ang mga nagiging bf ko tapos. shiieet! puro panget ang nagiging kaapid nila. Koreanong pangit ang ngipin, tapos negrong mukhang kargador sa pier!

Hi Migz,

IMO, I find it more interesting to read an article that actually happened and which is not purely theoretical as this one. You can easily relate and ponder in an article or letter with simple but meaningful lines. And as the author of this blog, you are entitled to make your own judgment and share your personal experiences while adding some of these theoretical explanations or inputs in your comment.

Warments regards,

Bond

Most relationships begin with lots of passion and raging hormones. Person A thinks that Person B and him are one and inseparable. They both think of each other as perfect. It’s the height of passion and romance, the stage usually called falling in love. And it’s effortless. It just feels so good.

But that’s just at the start. Eventually, the couples will get disillusioned, startled at each other’s individuality. Person A likes to watch Hollywood films, Person B would rather watch local dramas. Person A wants to have sex, Person B wants to pray.

As the relationship progresses, the romance fades. The passion recedes. The honeymoon dies. Suddenly, the lovers feel they’ve been working their asses off just to make things work. Some call this “falling out of love,” or the time one sees and realizes the flaws of another and feels that the relationship may be going nowhere. This, I think, is the part where temptation to infidelity creeps in.

Is infidelity inevitable? Maybe yes, if a person thinks that passion and romance are all that matters in a relationship, and that’s it’s time to move on and let go if the ecstatic loving feeling is gone. Or maybe not, if a person believes that even when the feelings fade and the passion dies, the relationship can still exist–and is headed for greater things.

I believe that infidelity is not inevitable. Though sometimes hard, we can always DECIDE against it–that is, if we love our partners genuinely.

Genuine love does not exist at the romantic, passion-filled moment usually experienced at the start of most relationships. On the contrary, it is usually when couples see each other’s flaws, when making the relationship work already requires a lot of effort–in short, when couples feel they are falling out of love and the temptation to be unfaithful sets in–that the work of real love begins.

True love is not experienced at the height of romantic feelings. That’s a common misconception. On the contrary, lovers can only say that they truly love each another when they still DECIDE to COMMIT to one another even if they no longer FEEL like doing it, even if the romance has long gone. Decision requires WILL, not feelings.

Again, infidelity sets in if a person thinks that feelings and passion are all there is to a relationship. But if he understands the value of commitment, he will choose to be committed no matter what–even if at times, the costs outweigh the rewards. He understands that real love requires faithfulness and commitment, and that only in loving genuinely can he grow as a person.

Love is not a feeling; it’s a decision–a challenging, sometimes painful decision. It’s a decision to COMMIT oneself to another for the sake of each other’s growth.

Kaya kahit di ka na nalilibog sa partner mo, kahit minsan feeling mo mas gwapo ang ibang lalaki, kahit kating kati ka na–kung talagang mahal mo ang partner mo, pipiliin mo pa ring maging tapat sa kanya. Kayang kaya ng kahit sino na gawin yun, gaano man siya kalibog, basta ba desidido siya.

goodness. did he just justify infidelity and adultery?

faithfulness and communication are very vital in a relationship.but the bottom line in achieving a compact affair is communication,specially in a long distance relationship.but sometimes, even stable communication like phone calls every minute in a day is not enough in a long distance relationship.TOUCH and all its art bubbles the picture.distance and time makes the craving for touch much more extreme.without touch, even you converse consistently and even you are faithful, the absence of touch will shaken your faithfulness speck by fleck. and the story about DRYNESS will now be unraveled…

hi migs,

nakarelate ako dito. 6 years na kami ng bf ko at monogamous kami. an incident last march had shaken me to my very soul. at first dine deny niyang may other “man” na nakasalisi sa akin. palagi niyang sinasabi sa akin na ako lang wala ng iba. until one day in april umamin xang nagpablow job siya sa isang acquaintance, bisita ng friend ko na galing sa manila. dahil kailangan niyang magbiyahe ng madaling araw kaya itong bf ko nagpropose na sa bahay na lang (bahay ng bf q) nila siya matulog. may nangyari pala sa kanila. hanggang ngayon iniisip ko pa rin… nagawa na niya minsan, magagawa uli niya iyon. ngunit ang sabi niya gagawin na raw niya lahat ng paraan para hindi na uling matukso. ano sa palagay mo migs? paniniwalaan ko pa ba siya? dahil ako mismo anim na taon walang ibang lalaking tinikman…

dear migs, bob garon must have known that in the heart of man is the lonely hunter. question is how often do we ask ourselves what do we hunt for? and why are we hunted?

I have found that this should be a shout out from my broken heart to the one who has a vacuum in his heart and hopefully he won’t break another man’s heart, not his partner, not the other guy, not me, not you.

Never again.

Any vacuum exists because there’s an enclosed space (ooops people might think I am talking about the universe, please whether entropy is or we’re still expanding is not my topic here, put that dog down before it bites me)

I think that this vacuum is because people don’t talk or even try to listen. Instead of relieving the pressure of a relationship in crisis the wait and see attitude (the hunter!!!) creates more tension.

I guess I’ve been the victim of this vacuum and got sucked into it (no pun intended! gosh no innuendo here).

I really thought it was love for me.

Sucker me.

Ugh.

Hi. my first time to be involved in a blogspot. I have a real difficult issue at hand. I cant deal with it anymore. Driving me crazy !!!! Love ? Luxury ? Needs ? Survival ? Pleasure ? Comfort ? Just what is it that keeps it going and going . . . . It’s killing me . . . .

how sad nakaka relate medito..
hehehehnakakaines!!!!!

“It’s really sad that in this world, people would rather see two man holding guns, killing each other than to see two men holding hands, loving one another”

the problem with today’s generation of kwatangs is their very selfish point of view when it comes to “relationships”. GUSTO NILA MAKARAMI BECAUSE LIFE IS SHORT.

leche kayo. yun ang.

the problem with today’s generation of kwatangs is their very selfish point of view when it comes to “relationships”. GUSTO NILA MAKARAMI BECAUSE LIFE IS SHORT.

yun ang.

hay its so hirap masaktan lalo na pag membro ka ng 3rd sex

bakla ang haba ng sinulat mo congrats