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Books and Literature and Love and DatingLetting Go May Be The Best Option
(This post is dedicated to a fellow gay blogger, Mandaya Moore who just ended a 5-year relationship with his live-in partner, Kulot. This is also dedicated to all those who, at this point in their life, are holding on to things/emotions/persons they should have let go a long time ago.)
Are you there things in your life that you know you need to let go? And yet you hold on to them, as if your dear life depended on them? It may be a material possession, a rotting job, a relationship with no direction… it ain’t easy I know, but if it is the best option, then let it go. I would like then to share this to you all — an excerpt from Paulo Coelho’s essay, “Closing a Cycle.”
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.†Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
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Nov 23, 2006
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daghang salamat migs.
Nov 23, 2006
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amen!
Nov 24, 2006
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It may not be the best thing to say anything sometimes. But here’s my two cents worth. YOu are the best reason for being here.
Don’t give it away to anybody. Not even to the one you love.
Nov 29, 2006
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that’s powerful….
Aug 31, 2007
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Love this!
Nov 3, 2007
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nice one ! ! !
Jan 17, 2008
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Its been 4 months since my 3-year relationship with a 27yo straight or rather it turned out confused guy, ended, thanks for the wonderful quotes on letting. I am starting this process this new year. I had written an article story of my love struggle titled “ped xing”, if you do have time id be honored if you could read it at my g4m profile id abet6. again thanks. its my first time writing here, im always looking at your new pics. nice. kudos.
Jun 24, 2008
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Recently, I started to ‘detach’ myself from all things him, even the places that we’ve been together. I realize however, I am not ready to let go because I am still madly in love with him.
Help! — lattes_and_yosi@yahoo.com
Jul 13, 2008
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I also went through this painful experience of letting go my gay partner. Fellows, take this advice…only you will know if its time to let go..and when you decide to do so, stick to your decision. Don’t look back. If possible, find someone who will take the place of the one you dumped. It helps. Letting go is a process (long or short depends on what happened between you)but your hearts will soon heal. And you’ll start to live again.
Jul 17, 2008
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kaka-touch naman..
Jul 18, 2008
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Trully a heartfelt one. Just like a detailed sort-out of the words: ‘Move on, Walk on, Go on.”
Aug 28, 2008
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I am so moved with this write up. I would like to seek the opinion of the readers also. I have been with my boyfriend for more than two years already. I have a key to his pad and I am free to go in and out of his place. Most of the time, I would spend nights with him in his place, we would make love every so often. However, I noticed that despite our “regular sex” I have notice that my partner would still masturbate when I am not around to the extent that I have doubted if he really is just masturbating or he had sex with someone else when I am not around. I came to know his masturbation habit when I noticed tissue papers that was used to wipe off semem beside his bed.
My question now is…how should one feel if you noticed that your partner masturbates when your not around and depsite your regular sex? I’m getting paranoid..
Sep 4, 2008
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i love this post Migs..of corz when u see that ur relationship is nowhere to go…ya u must clean ur mess.., shut the game take an end of it and stop being hu u r and change to hu u r?nice post Migs..nakaka relate tlga ako hehehe….more powers…best regards….