On Bisexuality
“I’m bisexual,” says a new friend while we were having dinner among other new friends. It got me to thinking how the concept and use of the term “bisexual” has, to say it bluntly, been bastardized as of late.
“Bisexual ako.”
I’ve been noticing that it’s a fad to say “I’m Bi” thanks to the apparently high “market value” of gays who act like straight men. Yes, the terms “bi” and “straight-acting” are being used interchangeably nowadays — and since it seems that a lot more gays are attracted to the “straight-acting” type, more gays tag themselves as “bi.” There are two issues here: (a) Self-concept — those claiming to be straight-acting should take a good look at themselves, and perhaps get honest opinion from others — there is nothing wrong with being effeminate, nothing so great about being straight-acting. We just need to be honest and comfortable with who we are, and how we really, naturally act. (b) Semantics — simply put, bisexual is not equal to straight-acting. Bisexual means you swing both ways, or you dig both men and women. Straight-acting refers to the outward behavior of a person — if most people who hear you talk and see you move mistake you as a straight guy most of the time then maybe you qualify to be called straight-acting. Furthermore, there are bisexuals who are as effeminate as fairies can be. There are straight-acting gay men who are exclusively homosexual.
My opinion is that there is much more to a person than one’s outward behavior. Eh ano kung effem? Eh ano kung straight-acting? While I totally respect your preferences in selecting a partner (as I have mine as well), I encourage you to try to look for more than just the outward behavior in evaluating people. Di ba nga, sabi sa Little Prince, “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” For me, the lesson from all these is — more than just the semantics and labels — embracing who you really are, being comfortable with the truth, and celebrating the beauty of it all (yours and others), minus the prejudices and judgement.
I, thank you! World Peace! Hehehe.
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April 26th, 2007 at 2:14 pm
Eh ano kung effem? Eh ano kung straight-acting?
That says it all.
World peace, Migs!
April 26th, 2007 at 2:21 pm
juice ko .. pinaganda pa ang term! PAMHINTA kaya! puwede ba … pare-pareho lang yan - sumususo pa rin ng titi!!! (oops pardon the crudeness).
yun lang!
April 26th, 2007 at 2:24 pm
yay, una ako… hehehe…. i agree with you migs… kaya ako, sa profile ko sa g4m at iba pa, nilalagay ko talaga gay ako… bahala na kung ma-interpret agad ng iba na effeminate na agad ang ibig sabihin nun.. hehehe… hay naku, nakipagtalo pa ako sa isang friend ko regarding the use of the term bisexual and gay… and yes, pati sya nahulog na sa misconception that gay=effem and bisexual=straight-acting. hehe…
one more thing, maraming nagkakamali sa paggamit ng gender instead of sexual orientation when talking about being gay or straight.
April 26th, 2007 at 2:25 pm
sorry na lang ian … first runner up ka lang!
April 26th, 2007 at 2:32 pm
@anton
bakit?
April 26th, 2007 at 3:07 pm
Migs, I agree. One who is bisexual is with preferences for both men and women. About the term, it’s the same way a lot of people use the term metrosexual, thinking that it has something to be with sexuality. And yes there is more than the labels. Bee happy sabi ni Jollibee.
April 26th, 2007 at 3:12 pm
haaaaaaaaayyyyy aun mataohan na sana ang mga ganyan…
hhahahahahahhahahahahha
April 26th, 2007 at 3:41 pm
AMEN!
April 26th, 2007 at 3:48 pm
Bihira nalang ang tunay na bisexual ngayon. Karamihan ng ngapapakilala na bisexual sila mga posers lang at mga gay na in denial. Yung bang ayaw ma-label na gay sila dahil feeling nila makakabawas yun sa kanilang pagiging tao.
April 26th, 2007 at 4:07 pm
parang hopia lang yan….. me mongo, me ube at me baboy…. me mongo with langka at me mongong pula… kung bading ka, ke bi o straight acting…bading pa din… ang importante ang nasa kalooban mo… malinis, malasutla…tangap ang sarili at masaya sa kinalalagyan… ang gulo ko… un na
April 26th, 2007 at 5:07 pm
whatever term they use to make them believe that they are more elevated than effeminated gays, still, it leads down to the conclusion that they love and desire for the same sex. wala rin silang pinagkaiba kaya tanggapin na lang nila wholeheartedly ang masayang katotohanan ng kanilang pagkatao…celebrate!
April 26th, 2007 at 5:08 pm
The term should be used only in terms of sexual and not social behaviour. Masculinity does not mean heterosexuality nor effiminacy does mean homosexuality. Perhaps the use and misuse of the term bisexual stems from ignorance, intent to mislead, or the struggle w/ sexual identity.
April 26th, 2007 at 5:29 pm
Tama. Noon ko pa sinasabi yan sa G4M eh.
April 26th, 2007 at 5:39 pm
i dont think that people who use the term “bi” rather than “gay” are people who are struggling with his sexual identity,,, ayaw lang nila magkaroon ng image na katulad ng ibang effems, and u cant blame them, hindi maganda ang imahe ng ‘bakla” in our society… tho mali nga ung term, pero madali naman malaman ang ibig sabihin nila, which is “hindi ako bakla faggot”
April 26th, 2007 at 6:17 pm
Hay naku Migs, isa talaga yan sa mga recurring topics sa The McVie Show dahil isa yan sa aking uber pet peeves. Eh ngayon kung effem ka or paminta ka? Okey lang pareho. Pero wag kang maging semantically challenged! Hindi kasalanan ang maging bakla, pero kasalanan ang maging tanga. Snap, snap!
April 26th, 2007 at 6:21 pm
I’m Straight-acting but if people would ask me, I say…”I’m Gay!” that simple. Bakla,tomboy,bisexual=gay
April 26th, 2007 at 7:17 pm
‘wag kang maging semantically challenged’
hehe, tama si mcvie. the gay kids who use ‘bi’ nowadays are so confused. (feeling matanda na.)
so shouldn’t those of us who are older and (ostensibly) wiser clarify these things for them? pet peeve ko rin talaga yang misuse of the ‘bi’ word.
April 26th, 2007 at 7:26 pm
Naive question again: yung bi sexuality ba yung gusto mo sumsuso titi (quote frm anton) at pekpek at the same time? o minsan gusto mo ti2? minsan pek2? Or in a whole year maraming beses ti2, tapos mga 3x lang pek2? (or is there a degree of sexual attractiveness like 99.9% to male & 0.1% to female?) O bi sexuality din yung nasa isip mo palang na gusto mo pareho, pero la ka pa talaga karanasan? nagtatanong lang po, Hirap talaga la pa sexperience.
(oops wag po sanang magalit kung katangahan ang inquiry na ito..)
April 26th, 2007 at 8:57 pm
hay naku, ang root nito is still the lack of pride. kung hindi naman kasi stigma ang tingin sa pagiging bakla, hindi sila mahihiyang aminin na bakla sila. kaya ayan, they have to use terms to differentiate themselves from us palin proud gay folk.
kaya kung ako tatanungin nyo, kapag sinabi nyang bi sya, TURN OFF!!! BUKOD SA TANGA, INSECURE PA.
April 26th, 2007 at 9:26 pm
i didn’t that kind of misinterpretation of the word exists!! o.O how on earth did they reach the conclusion that bisexual would mean straight-acting?!?
April 26th, 2007 at 9:28 pm
it’s true.. i sometimes say im bi, coz it sounds more “straight” than gay.. i mean, i feel like gays prefer “straight-er acting” gays.. u know..
April 26th, 2007 at 9:36 pm
hmmm.. nice article migs. im sure marami ang matatamaan dito!
April 26th, 2007 at 11:27 pm
Gay, Bisexual, Effem, Straight-acting, Homo, Transgender…..etc…etc… are all labels. What is more important is that you know who you are and what you are. Does it matter what others think and how they call/label you? The answer is Yes and No.
Yes, because we live in a society full of shits about us.
No, because we are all human.
Ambot lang….basta ako, I am what I am.
April 26th, 2007 at 11:29 pm
i love little prince.
winner ka mgg…
it doesnt matter if youre effem or straight acting, it doesnt matter if youre hiding in the mask of bisexuality.
what matters is you dont lose your true identity when you choose to be effem, straight-acting or whatever.
we should accept diversity among ourselves.
April 26th, 2007 at 11:31 pm
hey guys, if you really want to see a perfect example of “bisexual” men… definitely the Arab men in the middle eastern countries.
Ang dami nila dito and ang biro namin dito is “auto-volt” sila
But they are very delish in bed and most importantly; they are very well-endowed.
as in, yun lang
April 27th, 2007 at 12:16 am
hi migs, did’t even need to finish reading the whole thing before i could write a comment. same here, it got me thinking how on earth bisexuality has become so misunderstood and a lot of times misused to mean a better state than being gay. i’m a straight-acting guy (and by that i mean really straight) who happens to be gay - something i’ve not had qualms about and something i’ve not denied. i have never used “bi” to describe myself because surely i know my preference, i know myself. just suprises me how people use it as if by that they’re saved by the bell. i don’t see anything wrong at all with admitting to being “gay.” well, kanya kanya tayong diskarte sa buhay. yun lang po masasabi ko. tip to those guys who “think” they’re bi: review your basics of prefixes. any handy guide should tell you “bi” means two (i.e. in reference to sexual preference - male and female, and not to the condition of being gay plus straight-acting… ang gulo!).
that’s all migs. thanks for quoting Antoine de Saint-Exupery.
p.s. just met a gurl who i think is beginning to like me. duh, she doesn’t know about me yet, but i think i should tell her asap before anything really uncomfortable is gonna happen. but that’s another story. migs can i have your email addy please where i could drop you a line. ta!
April 27th, 2007 at 1:27 am
admittedly i’ve been tempted to use the label bisexual eventhough i’m not one just to conform to what the general gay population perceives a bisexual is, which is a straight acting gay guy but then i thought to myself i wouldn’t want to end up meeting morons who couldn’t tell the difference so i’m now using the label to atleast screen the idiots from those who actually has a brain.
and besides i prefer not to date bisexuals (those who really swing both ways) just because i like guys who’s decided on what he really wants. ^_^
April 27th, 2007 at 1:42 am
i went through a time that i was resigned to telling guys i’m “bi”, at least on the internet, because when you told them you were gay, it started an annoying and unnecessary discussion on my degree of masculinity or femininity. telling them i was bi, was an easy quick way to shut them up. over time, you get over it and become more comfortable to using “gay”. these days when i encounter a person who says he’s bi, when i know he’s really gay in fact, i just think that this person is just late in the game. he’s not ashamed of his sexuality, nor stupid. in time, just like most everyone, he’ll get over it. i mean, c’mon, weren’t we all insecure and clueless once?
why does it bother sooo many of us that much when we know better?
April 27th, 2007 at 1:57 am
what does get my eyes rolling secretly in dismay are obviously slightly effeminate gay guys who excessively infuse ‘pare’ ‘tol’ ‘bro’ into our conversations. AS IF!
April 27th, 2007 at 2:34 am
yun nah! para matapos na yang walang hanggang kaguluhan dyan sa topic na yan. kung alam mong bading ka wag na ipilit na slight lang. dahil kung bisexuality rin naman ang paguusapan lahat naman ng bading kahit yung mga drag queens ay kaya chumugi ng hitad pero it doesn’t mean na bisexual ka.
winner ka migs.
April 27th, 2007 at 3:01 am
Hindi rin naman sila masisisi. Tignan halimbawa ang G4M nang malaman kung sino doon ang pinaka-”mabenta”.
April 27th, 2007 at 5:31 am
Migs,
Madalas nang issue yan (sa G4M at sa kung saang lupalop ng sangkabaklaan!)
Isang malaking CORRECTED BY!
Magsilbi nawa itung article na itu na isang panama sa mga taong pinatatamaan, lalung lau na ang mga effem haters!
April 27th, 2007 at 6:40 am
Deadma lang ako pag may nagsabi na “bi” sila - it shouldn’t really make a difference since because, as Anton Maton put it, it all boils down to sucking dick - ang nakakaloka lang kasi yung pag-gamit nung term na “bi” to discriminate against other gay men. Di ba manifestation yun ng internalized homophobia?
April 27th, 2007 at 8:18 am
Ah, so the debate continuous, at least for some. There are some who will say that these souls are simply confused on indecisive. Actually, I like the answer that an acquaintance gave me once when challenged about his bisexuality – he said he is not confused or indecisive; he is simply greedy (well, at least he is honest). But seriously, I think this really depends on the culture or where a certain gay community is at in its evolutionary development. In North America, for example, young men declaring themselves as bisexuals were more prevalent 10 to 15 years ago. It was even considered chic to be one, especially in the clubs. Nowadays, it is considered passé. Part of the reason is that more of the younger generation are no longer afraid to come out and they are likely to come out earlier than in the past (perhaps emboldened by society’s changing attitude towards homosexuality). Also, it is difficult to find a woman who will knowingly want to be active participant in a relationship with a bisexual man because not only it is too confusing for a heterosexual woman, she will also have to compete (for time and affection) with both men and women. And who can blame her; it would simply be too emotionally exhausting. [The trend nowadays is having a #**k buddy or a friend with benefits. Migs, what do you think of a friend with benefits or am I making you blush?]Human sexuality is quite complicated, and I think it is safe to say that bisexuality will continue to exist to some degree. But, if one has to look at the overall trend, there is evidence that more homosexuals will likely define themselves as gay rather than bisexual. The same argument can be applied to how gay men define their physical identity. Undoubtedly, a percentage of the gay population will identify themselves with feminine traits but the majority of gays will likely identify themselves as men (albeit gay men), simply because they think of themselves as male. The majority of gays don’t think of themselves as women, nor do they want to be women. After all, being gay is not about physicality but rather it is about how the brain is wired. A transgender person is an entirely different matter. Once a transgender person has completed his/her transformation to become his/her chosen gender, the body and mind are reconciled.
April 27th, 2007 at 8:21 am
mismo! ano man ang “label” at pagtatago sa sarili, nagsusumigaw ang katotohanan na lulurki pa rin ang hinahanap.
Hay, walang masama sa pagiging bakla. Nasa bawat tao na lang yun kung paano siya mabubuhay bilang isang bakla. May baklang pari, baklang pulis, baklang may asawa, baklang estafadora, baklang santo, baklang mamamatay tao, baklang mapanlait, etc. etc.
April 27th, 2007 at 8:37 am
akala ng mga bata ngayon ang “bi” equates to acting lalaki, hindi masyadong malaswa o parlorista. kaya pag sinasabi nila “bi” sila, sinasagot namin “ah, bayot”
April 27th, 2007 at 10:40 am
Like you said, it is all a matter of semantics. I believe that even the word bisexual was coined to justify a guy who engages in sex with other men but also has the ability to have sex with women, but would not admit to being gay. I don’t think there is such a thing as bisexual. If a guy loves to suck dicks, he is gay whether he can have sex with women or not. Because a real straight guy would not have sex with another guy no matter what. Those who have sex with other guys for the sake of money are highly suspect, too. This is just my humble opinion.
April 27th, 2007 at 10:47 am
PAHABOL: Bisexuality is only one form of homosexuality, whether the bisexuals admit it or not. You can quote the world-renowned psychologists (who have put in their two cents worth regarding this issue), until the cows come home, but in the end, that is what it all boils down to. Again, this is just my humble opinion.
April 27th, 2007 at 3:18 pm
this is a very good article about bisexuality…http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality..
i think gay is gay…not the other way around…lets stop pretending…most BI dont fall for women…therefore they are GAY..(hindi po galit)…
April 27th, 2007 at 4:04 pm
oohh i seee, kudos to jed, ace & indoyG, such enlightening answers. so my conclusion basta you fall for the same gender, then your gay (whether you still do it with the opposite sex)
(yeah may stigma lang sa Pinas the different degrees from being straight acting to being effem, homophobic in the gay community … agen!)
April 27th, 2007 at 4:11 pm
up ko lang!
and still counting……grabe na’to!
dapat meron na MGG Convention!
‘yon lang!
April 27th, 2007 at 4:35 pm
My two cents to this blog entry is … hay if the shoe fits, have a corn
April 27th, 2007 at 11:10 pm
girl, boy, bakla, tomboy… butiki, baboy (may “bi” ba?) lol! actually para sa akin di natin masabi kasi kahit ako wala akong label sa sarili ko… parang wala lang. i have no feelings towards same sex yet im not that straight. anu ngayon? gay or bi (bi blue/ bi pink)? ang dami kasi mga pangalan basta ang mahalaga tanggap kayo ng mga taong nagmamahal sa inyo! bakit kasi nauso ang mga kung anu anong “ecklavhou”! yan tuloy madami ang nagmamagaling
PEACE men!!!
April 28th, 2007 at 12:26 am
I hope this would end all your bangayan regarding the topic bisexuality:
I am a psychologist.
Behavior is such a diverse thing. You cannot box pipol according to their behavior because their behavior may vary from the other.
Although there are general/predictive behavior and thats what you see around you.
Why am i talking about behavior?
Because being a bisexual is a behavior.
If you follow the logic above then you will see the point that i am talking about.
You cannot say that a perosn is PURELY GAY because he happens to suck cock. He maybe gay, or partly gay, because he MAY also like women (and believe me there are species of men who fall under this category)DOnt be so narrow minded pipol!!!
The world is not created black and white. In the same manner that in between a man and a women a variant came into existence…and that is us, gays… So among gay pipol a different, interesting specie morphs into something unique and that is what we call bisexual pipol.
The bottom line here is that we should respect each other no matter what.
April 28th, 2007 at 12:36 am
to eric -
i beg to disagree when you say “So among gay pipol a different, interesting specie morphs into something unique and that is what we call bisexual pipol.”
anong unique kaya jan … eh pare-pareho din lang silang sumususo ng t*t*! … kahit pa sabihin mong sumususo sila patuwad o kahit anong position… t*t* pa rin yon sinususo nila! NOTHING is UNIQUE to that!
malapit na akong maging kabit!
anton maton
April 28th, 2007 at 12:50 am
Alam nyo guys, there’s no better way of saying it than Migs way.
Todo suck-up na to.
Anyway. What does it really matter? Ang point nung blog is that there are people who cant really accept who they are. Ang sa akin lang eh —
PAKIALAM KO SA INYO!
Mga bakla talaga kayo lahat, kasi lahat kayo pakialamero at nagmamagaling!
Tingnan nyo na lang ang sarili nyo, if you think you are bi(or gay, or bi, or whatever) then so be it! Pakialam ng iba kugn ano ka. Maging masaya ka lang sa sarili mo, yun naman ang importante, mga POOOOOOTAH sila lahat!
April 28th, 2007 at 12:59 am
The problem with some pipol is that they cannot accept the fact that there are pipol who has a unique behavior Thats what we call their idiosyncrasy. Maybe ikaw puro titi ang sinususu mo pero me ibang tao na pati puke ay kinakain. and walang masama jan. Bakit parang ang hirap intindihin nun.
OO me mga nagkukunwari na bi sila. Pero me mga legit pipol naman na totoong nalilibugan sa harap ng hubad na babae.To some its revolting but to others who share the same interest, nakakalibog un.
April 28th, 2007 at 1:50 am
add ko lang…
we had a new hire here at the office and he announced that he is actually a bisexual. it didn’t worked well with him as everybody was more uncomfortable with him than with those actual full-pledged badings. in other pang-g4m lang at booking yang title na yan sa real world hindi yan naaappreciate ng normal na tao hehehe kaya ayun nagresign siya kasi wala siya kasundo. pero i was nice to him naman. yun nga lang everybody else treats him otherwise. sad girl.
April 28th, 2007 at 1:57 am
the pinoy gay scene is so whacked.
wawa.
April 28th, 2007 at 6:30 am
eehhh, habang dumadami replies, mukhang lalo me naguguluhan?
it seems that ang bi’s na ngayon ang nagiging stigma ng gay community? errr?
April 28th, 2007 at 6:46 am
Bat kasi kailangan pang mag LABEL
April 28th, 2007 at 2:20 pm
If it causes this much confusion and turmoil in the lives of men, then maybe it would be best to just drop everything. Labels are supposed to be for convenience. They obviously aren’t being “convenient” anymore, so why use them? Once a word loses it purpose, there’s no point in keeping it in use.
Nevertheless, it is just wrong to say gay = effeminate -and/or- bi = masculine (”straight acting”). If one is to taxonimise, might as well do it correctly. Ignorance is unforgivable. And I back up Migs’ main point: So what if one guy likes barbie and aspires to be like Madonna? Or if another likes cars and struts like a hoplite? Doesn’t really make you less or better of a human being, does it?
- Pronghorn -
April 28th, 2007 at 2:22 pm
Oh and P.S. I think ’straight NATURED‘ is more appropriate for the masculine identified. “Acting” indicates one is simply playing to be “straight” —and unless one is being accused of a mere theatrical display of masculinity it would not be accurate nor polite to use this label on someone. But then again, why does straightness have to equate with masculinity and gayness with femininity? And as a good brother wrote: “Mentally, how different is a man from a woman, from a homosexual or a bisexual? Socially, what protocols and conduct should a man observe? A woman? How should a man speak? How should a woman walk? Where does one draw the line? Nowhere. Because there is no boundary but physiology, the endowment of male and female parts, and hormones. And even in that there are anomalies.” See, people? The words have lost their purpose. I leave you with Migs’ wisdom: …embrace who you really are, be comfortable with the truth, and celebrate the beauty of it all (yours and others), minus the prejudices and judgement.
- Pronghorn - (–,)
April 28th, 2007 at 2:23 pm
the thing is, most people use terms that they don’t really understand. They may have an idea of what the word means, but they are not sure… and yet they use it. Oftentimes, there are terms which are nicer to the ears that people tend to use them to mean something else…
April 28th, 2007 at 4:23 pm
World Peace!
Hindi lang nila alam ang term na ginamit. Kaya mali-mali ang pagkaintindi at pagkagamit ng mga terms. Ok na ang mga replies, basta malinawagan ang mga gumagamit ng terms na yan at sana maituwid ang maling akala.
World Peace!
April 28th, 2007 at 11:30 pm
oo nga. i would like to view bisexuality as a biological behavior rather than as a label.
i hate it when people say as if it’s a preferrence.
April 29th, 2007 at 1:27 am
I am straight acting.. but that doesnt mean that i am bisexual.. bisexual means you are sexually attracted to both the male and the female species.
April 29th, 2007 at 5:36 am
I never felt obliged to “come out.” But I’d give people the affirmative if they asked me if i were gay, and then I would want to take a pic of the faces they make, the “sayang ka” look. Heehee. i’m out to everybody. no biggie. but that doesn’t mean i’m a fully accepted individual in our hyprocritically moralistic society. yeah, i’m out to my family. they understand what i’m going through (or profess to understand). not everyone is so lucky to have that. That’s why a few people label themselves as bisexuals. Just for the sake of discretion and, yeah, for butch-sh manly-gestured effect. But c’mon, calling yourself a bisexual where in fact you only have sexual thoughts with men (and you’re actually doin it) is so preposterous, it’ll make my head spin in degrees you can’t imagine. Filipino gay men concoct distorted meanings for the words “bisexual” and “gay”. if you give head and enjoy doing it exclusively with men, don’t talk to me about bisexuality. but i digress.
And oh, about being straight-acting, yeah i definitely agree with em. Labelling yourself as a straight acting queer is so shallow. Calling yourself “manly” will do, or if you’re s technical bout it, “masculine” is better. I think it’s time to treat our orientation seriously.
April 30th, 2007 at 1:32 am
amen
April 30th, 2007 at 8:40 am
sus simple lang yan:
bi = baklang ipokrito
April 30th, 2007 at 10:03 pm
i find the very obvious avoidance of diversity among gay preferences leading to a uniform look for gay men. if we go oon like this, someday being swishy will be very radical while being in the closet will be the norm. ugh. ignorance is hell.
April 30th, 2007 at 10:10 pm
wala kayo sa kaibigan ko. he claims he’s (and i quote) “bi-slash-gay”. LOL.
and like what i told him then, i guess that means he’s 3/4 gay?
May 1st, 2007 at 12:05 am
YES PAMINTA PIPOL GAVE BI A BAD NAME. BUT NOT ALL PIPOL WHO CALL THEMSELVES AS BI ARE PAMINTA…
May 1st, 2007 at 12:34 am
Hey hey! Hold your horses!
Nagulat ako sa naka-uppercase characters ng recent comments. For those who misuse or are not informed well of the terms and spirit of the term BISEXUAL, we educate them. No finger pointing, no accusations.
World Peace sa inyong lahat! Bow!
May 3rd, 2007 at 7:49 pm
“Bisexual” is a term used to connote a individual who has the capacity to get attracted to the opposite sex, as well as the same sex. However, this is considered null by homosexuals because the moment one gets attracted to the same sex, he is immediately considered a homosexual. Now, the term “bisexual” is a term used by straight-acting homosexuals. I consider myself a bi because I am not effeminate. However, there are those who make a big deal out of the misuse of the term because. So what if we call ourselves bisexuals? We just want to distance ourselves to homosexual who act like women. It’s just like communism and democracy: you can’t put them together. And I do not agree with one of the posts in this topic that bi relationship is just about sucking dick. I have a boyfriend, and although we have sex sometimes, we make it clear that sex isn’t the focus of our relationship. I didn’t fall in love with him because he had a long dick. I fell in love with who he was
May 4th, 2007 at 3:08 am
A bisexual person is way different from being a straight-looking guy. (in reaction to what Adrammelech said before this.) The point here is that one should not be considered a bisexual just because he indulges himself more on his masculine side. I mean, he might be true when he defines bisexuality. But clearly, there’s no exclusivity to that norm because one can be in touch with his feminine nature though completely swings both ways, if you catch my drift. If you want to distance yourself with the connotation that gays are often effeminate, then also distance yourself with other things you don’t like, say, your boss who screams his lungs to hell or your blabbering sister who listens to NSync till now, or anyone to whom you’re havin a high maintennance relationship with. I mean, cmon, those things can be so irritating, at times, nerve wrecking, yet you learn to deal with em. You learn to accept the fact that they live their daily routine with you. Co-existence is a far better ideology than being distant.
May 6th, 2007 at 2:07 pm
I didn’t mean distancing myself literally from them. I meant distancing themself as if it were a genre of music (e.g. rock music / rap music). It’s not that I’m mad or irritated with effeminate homosexuals. It’s just that it’s not in my ethos to act as such. And what has my boss or BF got to do with this? Your comparison is a bit way off
May 6th, 2007 at 11:52 pm
Those are just labels I even met gay guys saying that they are bisexuals but they are totally gay.
Some misuse this labels as a hierarchy. Being a bi has a higher ranking than being gay because bi guys might mostly be accepted public rather than being gay.
As for me I have my own concept of being a bi or gay. Even a real straight guy has his own soft side. Men have a small partition of estrogen in their bodies.
I agree with this: Di ba nga, sabi sa Little Prince, “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.†Bi and gays are still men by heart. Some are like dogs who bark on whatever tree they see even though they have their own relationship. Trully the word sex for such guys means fun but how long are you people gonna do it for fun? Until you reach 50 and your still a pervert without a partner by your side? I don’t wanna sound so old but it’s true. Some of us this days are just out there to have some fun.
OK horndogs matamaan na ang matamaan but it’s the truth.
May 14th, 2007 at 8:03 pm
hay naku! i’ve been wanting to post a reply for a while but i didn’t know what to say or which post to respond to. but i haaaaaaad to reply to this because you quoted from the Little Prince!.. and i’m reading it na! hahaha. ;D
May 15th, 2007 at 12:54 am
MARGS! good to know you’re reading na The Little Prince! Hope you like it. See you on Wed!
May 18th, 2007 at 5:39 pm
Sa pilipinas lang naman talaga merong ganitong labeling eh… This is brought out becoz of the male pinoy machismo, sa ibang bansa wala… Ok lang naman ganito tayo dito eh, para madali ko malaman sino in self denial and arent sure of themselves, turn off kc.
June 4th, 2007 at 8:46 am
sobrang misused na ang salitang BI. bakla din naman yan. kahit pagbalik baliktarin man nila ang mundo bakla pa rin sila.
once nagchachat ako sa bi-manila sa mirc, there’s this one guy na seeking for a serious relationship daw sya pero may i give na requirements like “discreet, straight acting, di halata, gymfit may stable job, hinde BI manamit etc etc”.. nagpost pa ng pic si bakla eh ang chaka naman.. so mega react naman ako na “seeking serious rel daw pero ang choosy” tapos react naman sya.. wag daw ako makialam.. at bakla daw ako.. eh di sabi ko naman “bakla naman tayung lahat dito”.. di daw sya bakla.. curious lang daw.. POTAH curious pero seeking for serious rel! bute may i rescue ibang badessa sa chat.. kinuyog talaga si bakla. lolz
August 15th, 2007 at 8:57 pm
wow!! applause,,, i myself say im gay ,, i dont beat around the bush telling everybody im BI ,, but i not effeminate either,
September 11th, 2007 at 3:07 am
What?! Bi means straight-acting now? That is soooo stupid!
And while we’re on the subject, i think most bisexual guys dont really enjoy sex with women, they can merely tolerate it. And there’s a huge difference!