Joy and Sorrow
Joyful Sunday… Beautiful, beautiful day. The Actor and The Blogger went out-of-town. Heaven.
Sorrowful Tuesday… The Blogger caught The Actor red-handed. Philandering piece of sh**.
Such is the uncontrollable drama of life. Allow me some space to grieve.
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
[The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran]
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October 17th, 2007 at 10:48 am
ive been rooting for the basketball player since then. xa na lng migs! he’s worthy of ur love!
October 17th, 2007 at 10:51 am
Hi Migs. Just like what I wrote you yesterday, you need a lot of relfection for the situation.
Now that you’ve caught the actor red handed, it would now be a matter of choice that you have to make.
Will you continue to grieve or confront Mr. Actor whom who knows if he will tell you the truth?
At least as early as this you have discovered how he is or who he is.
The life in showbiz is so complicated that you wouldn’t know the true person.
It would still be you choice and make a lot of thinking, reflection.
Who knows, it could be THE SIGN.
Again, goodluck and pray.
October 17th, 2007 at 11:08 am
A lot will be giving out their best advises, so as an inexperienced person in love, I would just like to reiterate what most have commented when you first blogged about You Being In Love: That all of us, your friends and readers will always be here for your, no matter what.
Pero di ko mapigilan, agree lang ako kay Ced and Akoito… maybe these are signs? Dunno.
I have just watched stardust lsat night, and I have learned a lot from the movie (and laughed a lot too), though I already know the story from the book. But in a bobo teen’s lingo… we kinda like have our Victorias… uberly infatuated with them, beautiful as they are and cunningly lovely, but somewhere along the way a star awaits for us to kinda like see them. Like shine whenever we are there and somehow we shine too when we are kinda in close proximity. But duh! what do I know. lecheng love ito. kasakit sa ulo! Haaay! Ke ber!
basta. mabuhay! World peace? Inner peace ko muna importante, mamaya ka na world.
We love you migs!
October 17th, 2007 at 11:21 am
“All is fair in love and war.”
October 17th, 2007 at 11:33 am
We’re still here migs…
TARA! FOOD TRIP!
October 17th, 2007 at 11:37 am
“Life is a succession of lessons, which must be lived to be understood.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson~
October 17th, 2007 at 11:44 am
naalala ko sabi sakin dati ng tatay ko pag me umaaway sakin… ano susugurin ko na?
hahaha
So migs, ano? sabihin mo lang kung gusto mo sya ipabugbog! Ipapabugbog ko sya sa mga frat brods ko (wag lang sana me madulas na sabhin bading ako!) hehe.
O kaya, Brownies ng becky’s Kitchen, you want?
love ya! Peace!
October 17th, 2007 at 11:47 am
@Lee - I STRONGLY SUGGEST RAPE. hehe… para naman mapakinabangan pa natin… in fairness, actor rin yan. laman tyan din. hahaha!
October 17th, 2007 at 11:53 am
You fell for an Actor! Bah! Those people live in a different world. Go back to the basketball player. At least he’s sincere.
October 17th, 2007 at 12:00 pm
It’s a blessing that at this early point of your relationship; nakilala mo na sya…
At least buti ka pa, for a while, na-infatuate ka; naistorbo ka nya for a while..ako hindi, boring ang life ko eh…
Smile lang ng smile
October 17th, 2007 at 1:27 pm
Migs, sino ba yang actor na yan? Is he a member of an all male sexy group? Give us naman a clue baka yang actor na yan eh bf din pala ng friend ko mmmmm…..Basta Migs, enjoy life..Life is too short to be miserable…Basta relax lang..IIbig ka ulit with someone better kaya dont u get sad..Smile..Sino yan Migs, clue naman pls….
October 17th, 2007 at 2:09 pm
delete the first comment/post. something went wrong. anyway as i said, looking forward to chat and coffee.
in the meantime, ponder on this over chocolate chip ice cream, a good massage by an ageing blind masseur, and red wine.
LOVE TAKES TIME (Mariah Carey)
I had it all
But I let it slip away
Couldn’t see that I treated you wrong
Now I wander around
Feeling down and cold
Trying to believe that you’re gone
Chorus:
Love takes time
To heal when you’re hurting so much
Couldn’t see that I was blind
To let you go
I can’t escape the pain
Inside
Love takes time
I don’t want to be here alone
Losing my mind
From this hollow in my heart
Suddenly I’m so incomplete
Lord I’m needing you now
Tell me how to stop the rain
Tears are falling down endlessly
Chorus
You might say that it’s over
You might say that you don’t care
You might say you don’t miss me
You don’t need me
But I know that you do and I feel that you do
Inside
Chorus
October 17th, 2007 at 2:15 pm
…and the plot thickens!
sabi na nga ba dapat si basketball player na lang eh!
October 17th, 2007 at 2:19 pm
let’s have coffee migs
October 17th, 2007 at 2:38 pm
@isaribi… ay oo nga pala! bakit ko ba niisip ipabugbog, bading nga pala ako, rape nalang! hehehe
October 17th, 2007 at 3:30 pm
kahlil gibran… my fave.
October 17th, 2007 at 4:32 pm
@Lee - dapat lang… parape din ako sa brotherhood nyo ha!… whahaha!
October 17th, 2007 at 5:19 pm
One life.Live it.
October 17th, 2007 at 5:27 pm
well that’s sad.. sinapak mo ba??
anyway, does this mean you’d give mr. basketball player a chance now??
October 17th, 2007 at 7:04 pm
Ano kaagaw mo - bading din, o girl? Either way, karibal pa rin yun.
October 17th, 2007 at 7:07 pm
It seems nothing is permanent for lives of gays except hurt and pain.
October 17th, 2007 at 8:23 pm
Basta from my experiences of having a basketball player and as well as an actor boyfriend I’ve been in that situation too, don’t push too much..You can’t expect fidelity in their realm or in their much spotlighted worlds…Just enjoy the moment, enjoy great sex but do not hurt your heart..If you want loyalty from them, umalis kayo ng Pinas and go somewhere else..Start anew..Alisin mo sya sa mundong ginagalawan nya kasi i tell u temptations are there every minute in their world….Kaya Migs, basta whatever it is, lilipas din to…I still believe gays can be happy…Dapat may strategy din..di lang puro puso…:-) Love u migs…
October 17th, 2007 at 9:25 pm
Lost na basketball player for you to have considered actor. So what ever you do, do not go back.. You’ll just be selling yourself short.
As for actor, are you in a commitment na? Kung wala pa, in my opinion you dont have any reason to sulk. No crime has been committed.
October 17th, 2007 at 11:29 pm
oooh details migs…details..=)
October 17th, 2007 at 11:46 pm
How about glorious Wednesday, Migs just forget the EKTOR and BP, just focus on your WORLD PEACE Podcast, that would be sublime!
October 18th, 2007 at 2:11 am
abutan mo na lang ng trophy dahil magaling pala siya umarte.
October 18th, 2007 at 2:25 am
Ang alam ko, it was Lolit Solis who caught Piolo Pascual and Sam Milby in Sofitel Hotel. Teka… wrong pair.
Hey Migs, hope you’re doing ok.
October 18th, 2007 at 6:40 am
hey migs. i’ve been reading your blog for a while now actually almost a year and i’ve found it to be didactic and entertaining. this is my first comment so i hope it helps a bit. but all that sweet stuff aside, i just feel that you need to let go of things. you DON’T need a sign. what will be, will be. but as far as i know (or read for that matter) you’re smart enough to understand what’s going on. follow your heart but guide it with your mind.
October 18th, 2007 at 7:01 am
Are we in for another JOY RIDE?!?
mmmmmeeeeeooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwww!
October 18th, 2007 at 7:24 am
Migs, I’m so sorry for your pain and disappointment, my friend.(I just got back from work assignment). I don’t think there is anything that I can say to you that you don’t already know. But, I am an optimist by nature so I would like to impart this message to you: For as long as there is that glimmer of light on the horizon, there is a promise of a new day, a new beginning and(yes)a new love. (I would like to give credit to the author of the poem below but I can’t seem to find the name at the moment. I can’t find the title either but a friend sent this to me last year. It is a very straightforward poem but it conveys the promise of a new tomorrow. Migs, this is for you.)
Sometimes I ponder about what will come next
Where will my life turn when it seems to stall?
When is the next time I will smile again?
and how will I get up, should I fall?
Happiness fills me with a touch of sadness.
By that I mean I know it can’t last.
Beauty decays, laughter subsides
When will the stones be cast?
Tragedy can be measured
by the amount of happiness taken away
Elusion is our only protection
As we fall victim to its prey
So when I’ve reached a fork in life’s road
and the choices are many or few.
I follow the one that leads away from misfortune
That’s all I can really do
When life is good
You have to hold it in your hand
You have to close your eyes
You have to breathe it in!
Happiness may end
While tragedy begins
Today is the beginning
Is tomorrow the end?
October 18th, 2007 at 8:29 am
That’s a great quote from Gibran. It shall be saved, tucked away in my Life Lessons folder. Thanks for sharing!
You’ll be better off than you were before because of this experience, Migs. This, too, shall pass….
As for that cheating bastard, sorry na lang siya….F*ck him.
October 18th, 2007 at 10:07 am
I love the quote ace. bravooooooo
October 18th, 2007 at 4:38 pm
i’m sorry to hear that migs… you deserve someone better. never mind him. let go… and let him realize how stupid he was for cheating on you. we hope and we know you’ll get through this. God bless!
October 18th, 2007 at 9:31 pm
Hi, Migs. I’ve been reading your blog for the longest time. Didn’t really want to post anything, until now.
If you browse up, there’s a whole lot of sense posted, so I don’t think my two cents would mean anything anymore.
I just wanted to say that I grieve with you, pare.
I am affected (albeit less than what you’re feeling) by this, and I’m praying for you.
One day soon, you’ll look back on this (if at all), and be thankful it came your way.
October 18th, 2007 at 10:08 pm
and life goes on….
October 18th, 2007 at 10:14 pm
migs, as in??? well you did say you werent committed yet, right? bitching lang. sorry kapatid.
October 19th, 2007 at 10:23 am
“The fiery run of my passions evaporates the love lakes of my souls, clouds my thoughts and rains you into existence.
As I take flights on bolts of lightining. Claiming chaos as my concubine and you as my me.I of the storm. You of the sea.
We of the moon. Land of the tree.
What have I done to deserve this? Am I happy? ”
- Untimely Meditations / Saul Williams -
October 19th, 2007 at 1:43 pm
people who seek popularity and attention,like the actor, are generally selfish. they have flawed sense of commitment, as they want to be desired and loved not just by one person but by everybody. when his sparkle fades, he might come back and profess his undying love and fidelity. i just wonder if you would still like him when he is not an “it” guy anymore?
you obviously love the actor more than the basketball player. so it wouldnt be fair to take the player back after what happened. learn to stand by your decisions. everything has a purpose.
maybe next time, try not to let your heart rule over your mind. good luck. lilipas din yan.
October 19th, 2007 at 5:56 pm
sabi nga ng tatay ko…if i have to choose between marrying someone who loves me a lot but doesn’t quite hit me yet (not yet) or someone you love very much but doesn’t love you as much as you do, choose the one who loves you very much. Ang pagmamahal matutununan yan. He was right. Go for the basketball player!
Migs, if I remember it right, you left this player because he didn’t seem to know what he wants in life. But he wants you, di ba? Pero what about this actor?
October 19th, 2007 at 6:44 pm
@lee haha anu yang brotherhood mo? kakatuwa naman yan.
October 23rd, 2007 at 4:27 pm
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