Tuesday
Gay Confusion and Migs SpeaksAre you still confused?
I assume that most of my readers are pretty much comfortable with who they are — you know, being gay and all — BUT I also know that a good number may still be going through some kind of confusion. Something to the tune of:
Am I REALLY gay?
Maybe this is just a phase?
I am feeling something different, but I don’t want to be gay.
If you are one of these folks, I tell you: it’s normal. Here’s the bomb I want to drop: going through such confusion does not automatically mean you are gay. I believe that being gay is still a combination of a tendency and a decision. This is a controversial topic and I put that stake in the ground as to my stand.
Now, to my question — are you one of these confused or “curious” folks? (There are other terms actually being used: tripper, straight-curious, straight tripper, discreet, bi, g0y, etc…) If you are any one of these, I invite you, send me an email at migs[ at]manilagayguy[ dot]com, or better yet drop me a note using the contact form here. Tell me what bothers you, tell me what questions are floating around in your head, how you feel, and what you have in mind… maybe I, or someone reading this blog, could share a piece of their mind. You have full control to the level of anonymity you want to take. And if you don’t want any of your messages published you may say so, and your wish is my command. I echo Joe D’ Mango… sometimes, letting it out can make a big difference.
Be happy, people!
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Oct 26, 2006
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In my country it’s easy to find a boy to make sex with him, and it’s too difficult to make sex with a girl.
So, in my entire live I make sex with a boy and I Concentrating on any cute gay and dreaming to make love with them and fuck them.
Until now I have not make love with a girl but I like to watch a sexual movies.
I have a friend who loves me and I love him too much, I never been make love with him. Just a hot kisses and touching our manhood’s until Cumming.
Am I will not happy when I get married?
Really I’m too afraid.
Nov 11, 2006
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Hi! im 18 years old still confuse if a gay, bi or a straight.. i need someone to help me.. i have a girlfriend but im having a crush on some guy.. I NEED HELP!!
Nov 18, 2006
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i am bi, at least i think i am or maybe i am gay… does it matter???
i still get aroused by girls but i am very much attracted to guys… i think i have myself figured out, but in the society i am living in… i still have to keep it to myself… good thing i found your site, at least somehow i can share my thoughts, express my feelings…
Feb 22, 2007
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haha, same here.. in our society, it’s best to keep it to yourself.. anyway, i pretty much come into terms of who i am but somehow I’m still troubled. I am kind of attracted to guys peru at the same time i hate them for making me feel that way to the point that I bacame a manhater? ewan gulo kc ng utak ko…
Aug 3, 2008
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For my case, I find it hard to believe that people don’t know what they want and don’t want. I know I like men, and will never look at women with the same um, way as with men. I’m not gonna be sugar-coating it with terms like phases and confusion.
But that’s just me, and despite my beliefs, there are people out there who are ‘confused’, as men and women are ‘normally for each other’. I will not ridicule that doubt, as it’s about ‘the natural plan’, and anyone who looks at it with logic will say, hey, something is not right, it’s supposed to be that way.
That’s where confusion starts. You doubt the ‘plan’ and you doubt your feelings. You doubt yourself. And so, you must choose. You will perhaps be more drawn to the ‘natural way of things’, as it’s, let’s say, more universal, and as humans, we tend to stick to the majority. It’s natural, nobody can blame you.
The question is, which ‘truth’ will you choose? Safety in numbers, or that voice inside of you that just can’t be denied?
Nov 19, 2008
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i was confused, and finally accepted that iam