he’s my best friend since high school. for your qustion:
1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out? Yes, I told him one time when he’s asking me if im courting anyone in school.. i just casually told him “i’m gay”, then he laugh and said “ok”… nothing has change though ever since.
2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him? No, It’s like falling for my Brother… sounds cliche though, but I did not feel anything special for him at all.
(he’s laughing right now while i’m typing this)
3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy? yes… he said “we have it”

yes, i do have a straight guy for a best friend. yes, he knows that i am gay. how did he find out? let me tell you the story (you may edit this if you find it too long, i just want to share how my straight buddy treated me after all else): we were both members of a church organization. that is where our frienship started. he never knew i was gay (or bisexual, who cares about the labeling!) till my 23rd birthday celebration. how could he? he could see me having gfs left and right and at the church where we belong to, i was known to be a straight guy. on my 23rd birthday, he decided to throw in a surprise party for me. before that he already had an inkling that i was down and emotionally lost. he doesnt know the reason as to why i was depressed (i sort of isolated myself from the world except from him but never gave him a clue as to why i am feeling depressed). he decided to cheer me by giving me a surprised treat. he invited our close buddies (the kind of buddies that can keep your dirtiest secret) and have a drink. during my drunken state, i kept blurting out how broken hearted i am. i was a vegetable who was literally crying my heartaches to my buddies. they soon discovered that i was gay. they did accept me and still treated me the same afterwards. what surprised me though was that after i passed out, i awoke inside a hotel room. then i saw my bestfriend beside me, watching over me. he did tell me that after i passed out, he took me to a hotel for me us to sleep (my parents are against drinking and it is like mortal sin to go home drunk & he knows that). he then told me that he heard me in my sleep calling out the name of my ex bf, and how much i was longing for my ex bf. he also did find out that it was already 6 months since my ex-bf and i separated. my straight buddy knew that i dont play around and that when i am in a relationship i dont cheat. to his surprise, he also found out that i was reserving myself in case my ex would come back to me (ok… call me manang… but that is the way i was before). i was crying when he was revealing things that i have told the gang. he also knew of my plans to get a guy for hire, out of frustration from receiving a text from my ex that he is never coming back to me (ok! i was rebellious!). he then told me that he has another gift for me and that i am not allowed to refuse it if i dont want our friendship to end. he had an inkling that i was gay already beforehand and he found himself as a very fitting gift to bond our friendship forever. bottom line: he made love to me that night. he gave himself, his body and all. it was the greatest gift i ever got from him. yes, we are still very close till now. he is already married and have kids. the sex part never happened again. till now, i nothing compares to the way he made love to me then. i really felt cared for, loved and dignified. to him i am thankful to that.

Wow Crimson,

What a story.. sob…

Hay..

I also have a straight bestfriend. He knows. I even courted him, pero wala.. di daw kami talo, pero kahit kinukulit ko sya he doesnt disrespect me. Tatawa tawa lang sya.. he also allow me to hug him, pero hanggang dun lang.

Pag heartbroken ako sya ang laging sumasalo at nagbibigay ng support… sabi ko nga hanggang support lang?? Pwede ba tayo na lang, wala tatawa lang sya.

Also I am really thankful and will be forever thankful because he is the one who always there to support me and to change my views in relationship.

Kung baga martilyo sya at pinukpok nya ako para matauhan. Basta yung mga words nya will really struck your heart. Sya talaga yung nakagawa ng paraan para makarecover ako ng mabilisan.

hhhhmmm… yeah! one of my bestfriends is straight…

1.oh he knew it from the start.. hehehe.. I was pretty open about it..
2.I did..for 3 months..then it vanished all of a sudden.. realized that it was just friendship.. Brothers na nga turingan namin ngayon e..
3.o’course!!.. it’s always just a matter of focus and truly finding what you like.. i think..hehe

Same here. My bestfriend is a straight guy. And he knew all my “dark” secrets. few months ago he got married and before that we had sex just to satisfy his curiousity (sort of challenging himself before getting married, hehehe). Now we’re still the best of friends and I’ll be his son’s Ninong by February.
He’s my most treasured friend. Pero walang “attraction”, I mean sexual attraction. He’s like a brother to me talaga. Maniwala kayo at sa hindi, ako pa ang napilitan nung mag-sex kami. hahaha
- for your questions
1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out? YES. ALAM NIYA. DINADAAN KO DATI SA BIRO LANG, PERO ONE TIME NAGSERYOSO AKO AT SINABI KO NA I’M BI. AYAW KASI NIYA MANIWALA DATI. IT’S A SECRET NA KAMING DALAWA LANG TALAGA ANG NAKAKAALAM. NO REJECTIONS AND NO JUDGEMENT NA NARECEIVED FROM HIM. I THANK GOD FOR GIVING A BESTFRIEND LIKE HIM.

2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him? - MY LOVE FOR HIM IS MORE THAN THAT. HE’S A BROTHER TO ME. ROMANTICALLY? HMMM MUKHANG HINDI. IMPOSIBLE. HAHAHA

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy? -
DEFINITELY YES!

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
— my straigh best friend is an all out supporter, it was in college when I found out that I like the same sex, in high school we’d share girls we’ve had sex with and shower together, and compare sizes, sleep together, we cry together ang laugh together. he found out when we were in 3rd year college being in the same university, and then I start dating men, at first I dated my profesor who liked me a lot, then he asked me if I like him in return, he told me that as long as I am happy with what I felt then I’ll go for it and he will be there to support me. isnt that nice? but boy to tell you, he’d share me things he did to girls… ewwwwer! but thats part of fun and we wont like to lose.

2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him? kasi he is gwapo, maybe at one point yes, but he’s so much like a brother to me, sana nga di na lang kami mag best friend eh.hahahahaha. ano pa ba ang hahanapin ko eh we grow together and i ahve seen everything in him.

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy…
that is possible but that depends.

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
+ No, he does not know it however I’m pretty sure that he is able to feel about my extra care for him.

2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
+ Yes I fall for him however I didn’t verbally tell him. Even now that he is already married, we only just stay as friends.

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
+ Of course this is really possible.

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
~ No, I’m scared that i might lose him as well as our friendship. any help i can get regarding with this?? it’s like i’m real SABIK na makita sya and gusto ko na mahug ba once we see each other.. and i dunno when..
2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
~yeah, but i dont want to… hes like my brother na din.. i give extra care to him… he knows that, though but we only chat seldomly because went to canada to continue his studies. sob. now i miss him a lot…
3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
~i think so.. and that doesnt make the straight guy go gay….

i had a vey close horny friend who is straight, we WERE very close during high school that i knew almost everything about him, i did everything for him (he didn’t know i was gay then). Though most people around me suspect that i am, they could never confirm it.

it was a habit of the BARKADA to have overnight sessions at my place whenever my parents weren’t around. sometimes due to schedule conflicts only the two of us would be together. then one time, my friends and i had one of our get-together, my close friend SAGITTARIUS wasn’t able to come, he arrived the following day and another close friend CANCER, told him how disappointed i was… i left them at home watching porn because i had to go to school. on my way back, i decided to have a drink. after dinner CANCER left. The porn marathon continued, but i was sleepy so i left him with the porn and went to sleep. I woke up in the middle of the night with my hand inside his briefs… to make a long story short, i gave him 1 hand job and 4 blow jobs before the sun was up…

we were quite fine, he tried convincing me to come out, but i didn’t… he went away after college but we kept communicating, he even courted me once, during a time he hads three girl friends… i think that’s when i felt he’s lost his respect for me… when he returned, he we would have sessions, but he would ask for an allowance afterwards, this is when i knew the friendship was broken…

we are still friends, but not as close…

right now, the person closest to me is CANCER, the other friend i’ve mentioned. we were classmates till college…

NO, he doesn’t know…

I fell for him in high school, then somehow, i was able to get over it during college, this stage somehow strengthened the friendship, but now, i believe i have fallen for him again…

yes, such a thing is possible…

becks Says:
November 23rd, 2006 at 5:18 pm
1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
~ No, I’m scared that i might lose him as well as our friendship. any help i can get regarding with this..
~~~~hi becks,
alam mo if he is really a friend he would understand that, although at first it will be tough lalo na pag explain mo, why dont you introduce a lover? that will shock him and pulls him a surprise for sure but then it will be the way to explain everything aside from telling him right away that you are gay. this is what i did and it worked! from then on he told me that whatever makes me happy he will be there to support me, and he did nothing was changed, not now that we worked partways and he is now married.

hmm ka-charnessan!

My best friend is straight. We have been friends since we were 13 years old (we are both now 31 years old). I came out under difficult circumstances, where I was “outed” by some people who were hoping to hurt me, and he found out from them. I was terrified that he would never speak to me again, because the hurtful people told me they had told him I was gay. But that very same day, my friend called me on the phone and asked me if I wanted to go see a movie with him. He never said a word about my being gay that day, but his actions spoke so much, because he showed me that, as far as he was concerned, absolutely nothing had changed in our friendship. And he has been my most faithful friend ever since.

I never feel for him, probably because I almost think of him as a brother, and just as I would never think of my brother in that way, I don’t think of my friend in any sort of sexual or attraction way, either.

And I can say that, yes, such a close friendship CAN and DOES exist between a straight guy and a gay guy. Ours has lasted nearly 20 years because we understand that our sexuality has nothing to do with our friendship. He has met my boyfriends and has always been totally comfortable hanging out with us, and as far as I can tell, we will be friends for the rest of our lives.

yes.
we went to the same grade school, high school, and we currently go to the same university where we are both juniors.
i can never imagine going over the platonic mark.
he’s like the brother i never had.
haha
he has known about my men and i’ve known about his women.
it’s not the typical friendship for most people, but we enjoy it a lot.
purely wholesome friendship.

1. Does he know you are gay?

yes!

If yes, how did he find out?

i’m totally OUT!

2. Did you ever fall for him?

yes. i was actually attracted with him the first time i met him.

Will you ever fall for him?

i always have this feeling of falling for him everytime we’re together.

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?

yes.

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out? –Yes, my bestfriend knows that i am gay, and how did he know about it? Well, it was too obvious from my actions, but i’m not the parlorista type of gay person. Funny thing was when we were just plain acquaintances before, i said some nasty remarks about him because i thought he was the one of those bully and egoistic cagers back in college.

Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him? –No, i will not fall for him. See, actaully i have two straight bestfriends, and the other one–well, what can i say? i fell for him and he didn’t took it nicely. I think he felt betrayed. well, that’s what i heard.

Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy? –yes, it does happen if both parties are open minded, accepts each other’s insecurities, and respects each other

1. Does he know you are gay?

yup.

If yes, how did he find out?

i’m out. my officemates even teased us. well they knew i had a crush on him and he knows also. when we started to be close friends i have to convince everybody that i have a new crush.

2. Did you ever fall for him?

actually i liked him the first time i saw him. and i know it’s stupid but i think i still do like him a lot… yeah stupid. he knoews it. he said it’s no big deal and he accepts me with open arms as a true friend.

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?

some people click some don’t. it just happens that we do. and i guess being sincere and honest is a big factor. i’ve read that most who posted here sees their straight best friend as a brother. i guess because that’s how “they” treat us. he doesn’t treat me like one of his barkada but he confides to me like a boyfriend. i guess it’s like being brothers.

well i have this best friend thats a guy thats straight! well i think and im bi. i dont kno what to do cause he makes me feel so good inside and he is that type of guy that u would never imagine being gay cause hes like a sports freak, he boxes, he does all kinds of stuff.. but the funny thing is . is that me and him talk as if we go out or something, lets just put it this way he always says he loves me after i get off the phone with him.. he is always staring at me , he is always calling me, and he is always wanting to be wit me. yesterday nite i had the strangest feeling between us, it was march 5, 2007 at 11:30 pm we had juss got off the phone wit him and his grl cause we are always doing 3 way.. i hung up and gave them their time to talk cause she said she wanted to talk to him alone and when i hung up i wrote him a text saying i need to talk to you its really important and he says is everything straight, i said yeah i juss need to talk to you some other time, and he says no juss tell me now, and i said no i cant you wouldnt understand if i told you, he said no please tell me real quick, and i said naw ima just talk to you tommorrow ok i love you bro peace, no please call me and tell me, no i cant tell u now, and he said IF YOU LOVE ME YOU WOULD TELL ME NOW..:{, and i said and if you loved me youll wait lol :}!! end of conversation but im in love with this guy and yes i do like guys and girls equally but love is another thing!!

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
Actually Miles is my kaberks in college. He’s parang may bestfriend coz he was always there whenever i have problems. He was close to our gays’ friends too. Ever since 1st year college he knew that im gay.hehe..but we’re not that very close pa until we joines the cheering squad during our fourth year in college. It is ok for him na we (gays friend of him)to hug and kiss him because he too have a gay brother..but he knew that it is only for friendship..
2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
the last practice in our cheering squad, i slept at their house unplanned. it’s just it’s too late for me to go home so i decided to slept at their house..that midnight he cooked a food for us (only the two of us)..im shocked coz we were not that totally close..and that night also because of his caress, i fall for him..he was my 2nd love then..i treated him like a boyfriend thing but we didnt have any sexual doings..you know why?because i respect our friendship..that’s all..i dont want him to hate me for the bad thing i will be doing to him..

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
yes..but in our case it wont..i just let him to be my friend forever..

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
- He was the first person whom i shared my deepest secret. Pero now that i am out na marami na including my family.

2. Did you ever fall for him?
- Ewww!!! Never…

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
-Very possible..

True Story:
uhm… we’ve been best friends since first year college… a common friend introduced us and instantaneously we clicked…
Well… a few months later, i realized how much i liked him and yeah… i guess i did kind of fell for him. His eyes are so innocent; dumb, but.. it makes him look so adorable. Not to mention he’s got his killer body… hehe… well, that and we just get along so well.. i’ve even contemplated that we might even be soulmates or something. Alas, he’s straight. How do i know? I basically encouraged him to court his college GF… i’m stupid, i know. He was going on and on about this girl that he really liked but she was scared to get in to a relationship with him and so he was hesitating, so being the ‘friend’ that i am, i listened to him and he got the impression that he should court her, so he did and they ended up together, much to my shattering heart. Anyway, i distanced myself, cause i couldn’t bear it.. and besides, he was finally happy with his girl, so where do i fit in?! Well, they lasted for almost a year, but then they broke up because of stuff (he was busy, she was choking him, stuff like that…), anyways, we were still pretty distant. One day, i just got the urge to text him… and just like that our connection came back. Now we’re back to being bestfriends… I told him once that i was bi-sexual and that i had a major crush on him. He just laughed and said that it didn’t matter ’cause he wouldn’t think of me differently, (much to my relief and disappointment). So, things are going fine now. We text a lot. I joke about making love to him, to which we laugh to. But recently, something’s been bothering me. He’s reciprocating to my flirting. Somehow i’m getting the impression that he wants to try being with me. Hahahah… funny, huh? I know i’m just imagining stuff, but hey, libre mangarap diba? hehehe…

My Answers:
1. Yes. He knew. I told him. Nothign has changed after that.
2. Never. Like what most respondents here have said, it’s like trying to fall for a brother. Eewwwww.
3. Yes it is possible.

yeah.. he’s kinda nice.. i tell him everything. as in everything.. i tell him about my crush, kamaniakan about my crush.. and evrything about my crush.. he seems ok with it..

Hey! I need yall help…there is this guy that i work with…i really like him…or maybe i just have a big crush over him…Idk if hes gay or not..How do hint to him..im interested in him? HELP!

Nick

1. 1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
**We were goodfriends since kinder but we never seen each other in elementary and high school because he transferred to another school. He never knew about it but i think he does feel that i’m gay, or he just look up to me like a brother. I have been keeping my sexuality since i was a kid. I knew i was a gay when i was in elementary because i kept on fantasizing all my men-crushes. But i never shown it up to everyone. Only my Sociology teacher knows about my sexuality through a secret letter which every student should pass and what my teacher told me was “It’s good that you have recognized it.”

2. 2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
*Before, i can say YES!.. He had a girlfriend until now but we still have a good communication together through text messages. We were now schoolmates in college and we’re surprised about it. We go to the malls or other places together. We drink beer together and jump off from a bar to another. One night we were so drunk, we walked together as if we were walking on the moon. He knew that i cant go on to our house because it was very late, 3am almost. So he decided that i will be sleeping in to their house. While we were in the taxi, we kept on giving funny and other green jokes. Finally, we have arrived at their house. We slept on the same BED but nothing happened to us. I had bad plans in mind to have a sex with him, but i never did because i was scared and i respect him a lot. but when we meet in school and have some small talks he always tell me this when he is about to go ” text text lang ha.” I feel secured when im with him, whenever we go around everywhere. I even go with him and his girlfriend together, but sometimes i feel jealous about it. i think of betrayal by having plans in mind of loving him or his girlfriend because whenever i meet his girlfriend, she always give me a hug and its quite surprising. There was this time when this guy was sick, he told me to visit him, I told his gf that her bf was sick and surprisingly when i got in to his room his gf was there beside him. What i did? i just asked him if he was ok then have some long talks then went out their house. I think i fell in love with him, but i just cant dare telling my true feelings for him. Whenever people fool me around, he protects me…
3. 3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
–BIG YES!, for my situation, my guy bestfriend is always looking for me.. its like parang sabik na sabik niya akong makita, but later on for how many semesters in school, i felt so defensive of myself, i even managed not seeing with him anymore. I cried everynight asking God “who am I?,” and whats His purpose of having me in this world. As of today, we still are best of friends. My brother is also his barkada. and i think there will be no more questions from people if we are or not because we are very close together.

ANOTHER STORY…

1. 1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
-Let’s keep this another guy as “January”. January is my best bud in college. He is my classmate since we were in first year. When i was in first year, i was so scared of him because he’s like a badboy but take note there were only 2 cute guys in our section, including him. My answer to the question: He doesn’t know that i am gay inside, because he looks up to me like his brother/twin something.

2. 2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?

–We got a good relationship as goodfriends when we were in the middle of our second years in college. While waiting for the teacher in class, I give free back massage to my classmates including him. He likes my massage “yeah” and was the start of making myself attracted to him. January is a chubby guy, but he is masculine(in my eyes). He is Cute! He had a girlfriend and they were 2 years in the making. (hehe).. We were also classmates in PE and i love seeing him changing his clothes (naks, duh, im melting).. We are now in our third years in college and we are taking up summer classes. He is my classmate in two subjects among the three. He is the most naughty bestfriend i ever had because he always the one who invites me watching pornography in the internet cafe beside our school. We exchanged porn movies together through USB. I Like him so much because he has a great sense of concern towards my tardiness in my first subject in class.. All i can say when i arrive the classroom “Sorry na, Sorry na nga..” and he will laugh. One thing i doubt in mind while we converse together, January and I cannot have a straight look in the eyes and i wonder why?.. Im having doubts, maybe he is a gay in the inside but im not yet sure because he does look very sports and he likes magic as well.. When our class is about to dismiss at night, He distracts my attention to my girlfriend by calling and inviting me to go the internet cafe, like we always do, watch porn. Im having a hard time in choosing whom to follow, january or my girlfriend?… At last, JANUARY!..hehhe.. I bear in mind that this is opportunity and one way of making myself more closer to him. I think i’m obsessed to him because i do crazy stuffs in my bedroom. i sometimes think of him as my brother/twin because of our closeness together.

3. 3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?

–January is a straight guy and he loves girls so much. We share stories of funny things about girls.
In my experience, It is possible because he always invites me everynight to watch porn and do crazy stuffs like hacking in the internet cafe. I always go with him and his groupmates to make case report. After they have done doing the case report, they have planned to go to Mcdo to eat dinner. I go with them, but he secretely told me that he has no sufficient money. Cargo-de-conciencia ko yun if will not let him borrow money. I pulled of money in my wallet and treat him. While he was about to know that i was going to treat him, He was totally surprised and hugged me inside Mcdonalds. I said to myself “OMG, nakakahiya, sige ang sarap mong maghug para kang teddy bear”… Im concerned about everything that is happening day by day in his life. As always, I’m not yet revealing my true sexuality to the people and they dont know about it because i still look as a man of myself.

For the Conclusion, I Like and love him as well, but i will not tell it to him. I will just show it up through actions like being concern for him almost all the time. Actions speaks louder than words! By the time his’ “utang na loob” for me will get more stronger and that’s the time i will follow the
“10+1 Tips in Seducing a Straight Guy”
http://manilagayguy.com/2006/10/10/101-tips-seducing-a-straight-guy/

My bestfriend is straight and yes he knew from the very beginning that I’m a Tinkerbell.
He wasn’t my type physically, I like chinito muscular types, he’s Tisoy and lean. We work in the same industry, we’ve worked on several projects together, we clicked and I started feeling something for him. We’d go out twice a week, we’d drink til we drop, I’d bring him home sometimes but it wouldn’t lead to anything sexual.
It just went on and on like that, ’til I realized that it’s really each others company that we enjoy. We could talk about anything under the sun.
Definitely this is love but it’s the kind of love that is pure.. agape. I thought it wasn’t possible but indeed it is. We say “I love you” on Christmas and birthdays. He kisses me on the forehead and I kiss him back on the cheek. We hug, we text and talk on the phone morning, noon and night. We see each other almost every other day. We’re comfortable with it because we know we’re the best of friends.
Oh yes Virginia, there is a straight best friend.

I have a best friend that is straight. We lived in Atlanta together 7 years ago. When he first learned of my being gay, he did not take it very well. He ended up moving out after only 6 months because he knew that I was attracted to him. He later began coming back over to vist me along with my other roommate that stayed with me at the time when he was there. They would both come over party and get drunk and all three of us would sleep together in the same bed. No kinky stuff! It wasn’t until I moved to Chicago my best friend would come to visit and we would have these parties where we would spend the entire not along drinking and we decided to get more comfortable by watching a movie in bed in the nude. I don’t want to get graphic but it was not just any movie. It was a porn and we began masturbating together in the same bed with each other. He is definitely a straight guy. The only thing that he remotely did gay was allow me to massage his body while he masturbated. The whole time though his thoughts were on the guys in the video and mine were on the guy. He as several girl friends and he ended up moving back in with me again in Chicago. Today we share a bedroom together and still masturbate together or even take showers together, however, he is quite clear that he has not interest in guys. The most he ever lets me do is massage his body while we masturbate. He has a girl friend that he spends his time sleeping with. By the way, we are both in the military as well.

Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out? Yes, im pretty open when it comes to my sexuality when i was in college

Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him? Yes, but what i did is kinda weird, i changed my schedule, i never game him a call, i pushed him away.coz i know at the end of the day it wont work hehehe

Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy? ofcourse, i was even his bestman during his wedding, im the god-father of his son, but he knows that he’s very special to me, and thats about it

1. may hint na xa e. lagi nia ako binibiro dati.pilit nia ako pinapaamin ac2lly. i was giving him hints din na gay nga ako. i guess he knows naman in his heart kahit ndi ko sabihin.. kc ganun kami dlawa e. ugali tlga ata namin na kapag alam mo na ung ssbhin ng isa bibiruin mo lang, its mutual na lang tlga..the funniest thing na ginawa nia para mapaamin ako e ung nasa kwar2 kaming dalawa naglalaro ng ps2 tpos sabi nia “sabihin mo na kc di naman ako mgglit!!”..
sabi ko: “anu ba dapat aminin” while laughing..
bigla xa naghubad..
best:”ibaba ko briefs ko pag di ka umamin!!”
me:”edi ibaba!!”(at the back of my mind idle tots)
binaba nia.. at well hunged xa.=)
best:”o bkit ganyan ngiti mo??haha.. huli ka!! umamin ka na..!!”
the sad thing is..
sana umamin na ako noon pa.. ndi ko na hinintay na mawala pa xa sa buhay ko.. sad but true. patay na xa.. the last time i saw his smile was 2 years ago.. christmas eve.. hay..

2.i did not fall for him in the loving manner type. its just too awkward.. pero i admit na i am attracted to him physically. gwapo xa and macho.. and the fact that he is well hunged.haha.. all in all ndi pa din..

3. yep pde xa nu.. its possible bsta u make it happen..

it happened to me!when i was still in college ,i have this buddy from church choir to whom i got closed with.it all started in some sleepovers in our respected houses.evrytime we had d chance to hang out,go to movies,eat out & shop,it would always end by sleepovers either in my or his house.he never thought that i was gay bcoz were both active in church activities, but deep inside i have this desires for the same sex, i always dream of doing it w/the same sex but i have to struggle w/in myself either to do it or not.when one night,during his sleepover at my house, we started teasing and decided to give him a massage, from head to foot,from back to front, then i noticed his having his hard on,w/o 2nd thought,i decided right there & then to give him a blowjob, with my heart beating so fast i just thought of doing it wd my bestfriend saying to myself “bahala na, magbestfriend pa rin kmi or lovers na after that incident”.well after he released his load, we decided to sleep as if nothing happened.when we woke up the following morning, there was this silence between us.he went home that morning w/o saying our usual goodbyes & plans for the day.i just told myself thats it!but to my surprise he returned to my house the following day telling me, he cannot forget what happened to us the other night, that he cant just let me go, that i was important to him.we talked, i told him that im gay, and i want us to be more than bestfriends.he said its ok wd him as long as it just between the two of us, that our family will still believe that were just bestbuddies and they will never, never know the truth.the relationship continued until i graduated from college, until i got a job, he never got a girlfriend during our relationship, he even fetch me from my workplace from time to time.doing it every day, every night, of our sleepovers.the relationship lasted for ten years, not until he finally decided to court a churchmate, wd my blessings i gave him the go signal, i even told him, he’s not getting younger anymore that its time for him to get married.he got married after a year,i was his bestman at his wedding day, he even got me as one of the godparents during baptismal of his firstborn.till now we remain goodfriends!

i wish i had more time to write about my story based on the 3 questions above… in the meantime, in a nutshell, i can relate it to a song: “Hard Habit To Break” an original by chicago and renditions by great local singers!

hay naku… back to work for me!

i have my own story to share..Nakilala ko si chris sa isang training school. the first time nung nakita ko sya dun sa campus, i was attracted to him aside from bieng a cute guy, ang neat nya mag dala ng damit..hindi kme pareho ng sked ng classes namin that time kasi ang pasok ko pang gabi (kasi meron ako work during day time) at sya naman pang umaga. pag papasok ko sa school, pauwi naman sya.. minsan nakikita ko sya na kasabay yung gf nya from other school (i guess kasi sa kilos nila) till the next semester i was surprised na iba na ang sked ng classes nya. pang gabi na..i was very excited then kasi meron na akong chance makilala sya..hindi tumagal, nagkakilala nga kme at i discovered na sobra pala nyang mahiyain. alam nya na gay ako (though medyo hindi ako halata sa kilos pero sa pananalita ko malalaman mo na gay ako) hanggang sa time na i invited him to dine out after our class. naiilang pa sya at first sa invitation ko at natatakot sya na meron makakita sa amin na kakilala nya. our friendship then went deeper..tinutulungan nya ako sa mga projects ko na hindi ko nagawa at marami pa. our closeness even get closer till yung mga classmates namin nakahalata na. kahit nsa labas kami pareho hindi namin natatago yung lambingan namin..yun ang pinaka gusto ko sa knaya, wala sya kyeme.. i used to kiss him sa shoulders. at lumipas isang taon.. one time, i think he tested me, kami lang dalawa sa bahay, uminom kami kahit hindi sya sanay uminom ng alak at alam ko gumawa na sya ng move para mangyari yun, pero umiwas ako sa dahilan na andun ang respeto ko sa kanya. PLATONIC nga ang naging relasyon namin..i was falling for him though. i was afraid to let him know what i really felt.. then one day, nabalitaan ko na lang sa isa sa mga tita nya (kapatid nung tatay nya) which happened na officemate ko, na nabuntis nya yung gf nya. hindi nya inamin sa akin yun at itatakda na pala ang kasal nila. ako pa nag nag bukas ng usapan namin. hindi raw nya alam kung paano sabihin sa akin. sabi ko, harapin mo ang problema, wag mo takasan, napipilitan lang syang magpakasal sa nobya nya dahil dun sa magiging anak nila. hanggang kinuha nila akong isa sa mga ninong ng anak nila. nagpatuloy ang ganung pangyayari sa aming dalawa lingid sa kaalaman ng asawa nya na patuloy yung pagkikita namin. at hanggang dumating yung graduation rites namin, nakikita ko sila the first time mag asawa, nasasaktan ako..sabi ko na lng sa sarili ko, wala ako karapatan masaktan. pero patuloy pa rin yung pagkikita namin at minsan kasama ko yung mga kaopisina ko at alam nila ang namamagitan sa amin..patuloy ko pa rin syang minahal. i had sleepless nights then, wala ako magawa kundi umiiyak. gusto ko na syang iwasan dahil minsan napag alaman ng asawa nya na nagkikita kami at ayoko maging dahilan ng pag aaway nila. he respected my decision until i let go of the feeling. hindi naging madali para sa akin yun. hanggang ngayon naging mabuti kaming magkaibigan at minsanan na lang yung meet ups namin pero hindi pa rin nawawala sa amin yung samahan namin. minsanang na lang sya tumawag para mangumusta at minsan din pupunta sa bahay ko at hindi ko akalain na nangyari ang hindi dapat.. after the longest time..sa isip ko, wala na yung dati kong nararamdaman sa kanya. gusto ko man i-revive yung feelings, pero wala na. para ko na lang syang younger brother..until now we still communicate at nagkikita kami in our spare time..

we’re not exactly best buds but were very close nonetheless. this guy was one of my closest during high school though we actually talked to each other during our last year. he was kind, caring, intelligent, etc. anyway, for the question if he knows i’m gay, the answer is yes, he knows. i never told him until college when it is more liberating and more free from the confines of high school. will i ever fall for him..? the answer is yes. i did fall for him. i hid it for than a year. then one day, during one of bonding sessions, it slipped from me. he was so mad at me that he did not talk to me for almost a year, and all my attempts of making-up for it were in vain. until one day, he added me in his IM list, and voila, things were fine again. i never held any grudge towards him because his reactions were not far from normal. up to this day, we’re close again, and me meet during our spare time.

Yeah, I have a bestfriend who is a certified straight. He knows I’m gay. He told me straight to my face: I’ll never ever have sex with a gay man until I had sex with a girl. Hehe, sounds cool? Yeah, but when something happened between us: HE LEFT ME!!!

my bestfriend is a straight, he knows im gay, how? well everyone who knows me knew im gay and so he does.. fall for him? at first yes but i cant believe that i flirted with him in a joker manner parang wala lang larolaro..(tama ba grammar ko?)will ever fall? i dont think so coz for me hes like a younger brother,develop? in our case? imposible..he really is my bestfriend.. he would always tell me not to so sissy not becoz he’s ashamed pag magkasama kami, kasi daw ako daw mismo ang bumababoy sa sarili ko.. lagi kaming naglalaro ng kagatan sa pwet and sa ears pero walang sexual toughts.. wala lang..

he’s my best friend since high school. for your qustion:
1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out? Yes, he figured it out for himself. my girl friends already knew then that im gay but i still feel worried about telling it to my “macho” friends. then one time, maybe he decoded my messeages with my girl friends and told me … “alam ko na… bakit ka naman mahihiya sabihin sakin eh, ganyan ka. ikaw yan eh, ok lang yan…” then i was like “xet, pahiya ako dun ah… oo nga naman..” .
2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him? when we were still young, may anak na siya eh and mas likable siya noon
3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
oo, pero samin hindi siguro… parang malabo un

Why do people confuse lust with friendships? Friendships are just that.

You feel for your best friend in another level. My best friend doesn’t know I’m gay but I doubt it very much if he’d care.

Yes. I have feelings for him. But one out of genuine love, not out of sexual longing or something. I think the level of my love for him is more than brotherly because I just love him. And he to me.

Why would think otherwise? You lust for other people. But you’ll prefer to keep your best buddy.

Ang tingin ko lang para sa mga nagnanasa sa mga sinasabi nilang best friend, hindi talaga best friend ang tingin nila sa kanila sa simula pa lang. May pagka-selfish kasi ang pag-ibig na ito. Yung pag-ibig sa best friend ay ibang level — hindi siya lustful; mahal mo siya kasi parang bahagi siya ng pamilya mo.

Ngayon ang tanong pag nagkarelasyon lalu na pag may nangyari sa inyo, wala bang magbabago sa level ng pagkakaibigan nyo? Personally ang tingin ko, malabo na kasi puno ng pagnanasa. At sa ganito, masisira na ang pagkakaibigan. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na pag naging karelasyon mo, hindi mo pwedeng maging kaibigan. Ibang usapin naman ito.

I love my buddy because I just love him. That’s all there to it.

1. Does he know you are gay? Yes, He knows I am.
If yes, how did he find out? I told him personally.
2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him? He is the one guy that I loved so much, I’m happy with us being best friends.
3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy? Yes, he is still my best friend up to now. Nothing’s changed with us.

1. Does he know you are gay? Yes, He knows I am.
If yes, how did he find out? well I never hide anything to a friend. the hard part about it if he knows it later on. Besides I dont look at men like a processed meat.

2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
Maybe infatuation. Loving is a different thing. sometimes it will last for a couple of days lang and thats it. I think its posible to fall in love with a person . I never ask them to reciprocate but I think I would be happier if they do. maybe brotherly love not erotic love.

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy? more likely yes. depends on what stage of growth it happened, emotional and psychological maturity of the person.

hi
i hv my best friend we r living together we r so close but he never want gay friend just i felt this from his atitude and i m bi so how could i find is he also want sex with me or not?because whenever we r being alone together he want to close the door of room and we r looking movie then at that time i m always going near him ang also going so close but he yet dident kiss me and i want with he really
plz tell me how to find our best frnd is gay or if he is stright then how to sex with him?

if anybody can tell me how to fine our best frind is gay or guy and how to do sex with him and i love my best friend i do not want to lost him so want sex but claverly
and above story is such a nice

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
yes, he knows. it was the sort of thing i would really like to hide before but sooner, after the unsuccessful deceit that i led them to by actually declaring that i was i “bi” not a gay, they found out i was actually gay not bi… haha! and he kept on asking before that “di ba bi ka? why not find a girl? malay mo di ba?” but i merely shrugged off my shoulders. well, i got irritated with that but sort of told myself, yeah, maybe he was right and it was really my fault to say something that did not exist anymore. it is true that i had several crushes and even had my girl childhood sweetheart but all of it is over. now, pure homosexuality dominates me and i just know this is something irreversible.

2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?

yes! i really fell hard for him… when i first met him, i told myself he was sort of cute but all was mere that way and i didn’t fantasize him sexually. well, after getting to know him and having this several get-togethers, i started to fall for him. part of it was because of the fact that he was really sweet and still is and i felt before that he felt this special fondness for me so that attracted me a lot to him. it lasted for several months. i even got myself in some nerdy stuffs to get rid of that feeling and voila! i successfully did it. but with this came the inevitable academic depression and, really, it was something my ego would not accept… that some people were better than i. so, i still pursued this odd route and i got a stilted relationship with the world until this friend of mine (again) and i would have these silly conversations. finally, i got myself detached from the stiff academic affair and emotions came swirling in me. it made me high with emotions but still afraid because i fumbled for definitions to this uncertainly growing love. i tried keeping my distance but he would always and effortless seduce me to love’s poetic recitals and i would simply succumb to them… i just loved (and probably still love) him… he simply is lovable. but we talked this out and found out that he still did not know what he felt for me. he was still confused… some details seem gruesome for love to me now and i will just leave them for history to feed on. i just couldn’t help but put on a defense mechanism of selective amnesia… but now, we’re friends again although i sometimes i still feel gravitated towards this pull of love. sometimes, i cna’t help but feel i am sick and i need some help from a shrink.

3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?

of course… it can all happen. that is the magic of love. love is something that does not delineate certain boundaries in the context of self-righteous societal terminologies. the only thing love can bring is love in itself and loving is all loving can describe itself… a close relationship, undoubtedly yes but for some with past homosexual traumas, probably, it going to be a challenge to charm them to a really close bond between a gay and a straight guy.

yes i also have a straight best friend. Yes, he knows that im bi or gay(i really dont label)but he’s cool with it. Just today he was in my house…most awesome day in my life. I am very infatuated with him. Everything about him warms my heart.We are very close and can tell eachother anything.He also knows that i have feelings for him, but he doesnt know how he feels about my feelings for him. there was a time where he asked me if i wanted to fool around with him. But now we just hang out. I wanna be apart of his life for a long time

my post may be a bit too late…
believe it or not I have more straight (girls and guys) friends than gay ones…hahahaha (I do find this funny most of the times, and I still wonder why?)
here are my answers:
1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
I was around 19, when I told all of my friends that I am gay (I think that was the affirmation for them, since they all have an inkling already that am not straight at all). I was the Christmas reunion that we usually do every year with my high school friends. It was never a shocker for them, they were even proud that I came out…It’s like the best Christmas gift that they’ve got from me that year!

2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
I did not fell in love with any of them, there was this one that I helped to be the BF of my girl friend! But for some, imagine sleeping and fooling around with them, it never happened, siguro mas nangibabaw na lang ang friendship kesa libog! hahahahaha

3. 3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
Namine! It will always be up to you whether to pursue it or not (and up to them if they will want to). However I have this principle: Bahala silang mag decide kung papatol sila sa bakla, basta susuportahan ko lang sila sa desisyon nila (like how they’ve supported me through all those times).

1. 1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
-I’m not sure because when our teacher in Filipino in 3rd yr HS said that some guys haven’t discovered themselves yet about being gay or bi then he mentioned my
name. I stared at him angrily. After that, he’d laughed. Well, I also suspect him being gay because in the day of our P.E. practical test, before he shot the ball, he’d hanged his head and hands on my straight classmate and said “Hindi ko kaya.”
2. 2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
-Yeah, I’m pretty sure that I’m in love with him. It started after the P.E. class. He had not shot the ball. After that, he started acting like an “emo”. He said that that will be his last day. Afterwards, I ran home. In the jeepney, I
realized that I love him. At first, I doubt it but as months pass by, I’m absolutely sure that I love him. He was my seat mate from 2nd quarter till the 4th. Three days after, he onlined with his Yahoo Messenger. I was surprised because I thought that he will never be using YM anymore. He said “I’ve been thinking of it for a whole day and I decided not to do it.” Gladness came back to me. Days after that was summer vacations. In those days, I had sleepless
nights. I keep thinking of him. I was bored inside my house, waiting for him to be online but he never did. My whole summer vacation was pathetic. Until the first day of classes in my 4th year HS came. I saw him again and I became gay. I love his smile, face, and attitude. He is also intelligent. In fact, he is the top 4 of the class before me. By the way, we were partners in quiz bees.
3. 3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
-Absolutely yes!!!

very late comment from me. yes, i have a straight bestfriend here in uk.he’s british-asian.
1.does he know you’re gay?if yes,how did he find out?
-yes,he knows i am. i told him coz he’s very honest w/ me so i have to be honest w/ him.we share even the deepest secrets of our lives.
2.did you ever fall for for him?will you ever fall for him?
-yes,coz i told him.he even allowed me to kiss him in the cheek and hugged him but he politely said that he can only love me as a friend
3.can a real close bond of friendship,the platonic non-romantic type develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
-definitely yes.we became more closer after i told him that i fancy him.we care for each other, and he is there when i need him. because i’m closeted, he understands my reasons. he even offered himself to accompany me to a gay club so i can be what i am and he will be there to support me.when i am pissed off w/ work he comforts me.
there are plenty of things that we shared,the only thing lacking is the sexual relationship w/c i have accepted that will never happen.i am so lucky to have a friend like him.cheers ts.
tnx migz

1. Does he know you are gay? If yes, how did he find out?
-yes..schoolmates kmi nung grades school..then nung hs,lumipat ako ng school at prang co-incidental na dun din xa lumipat sa school na un..openly gay ako nung hs..
2. Did you ever fall for him? Will you ever fall for him?
-yeah..nung nging hs,..umamin ako sknya nun day after ng hs grad nmin,at he’s cool with it..pero ngaun,di na,best friends nlng tlga.he’s happy with his girlfried for almost 5 years…
3. Can a real close bond of friendship, the platonic non-romantic type, develop between a gay guy and a straight guy?
-oo naman..nung una,prang romantic ang tingin ko,kasi ung way nia ng pag treat sken e prang mag bf,pero nung hs p un..eventually,we grew up at ngaun mature na kming dlwa…sobrang prang brothers kme..he confides with everything..kht ung mga prob nla ng gf nia..at ako rinpag may prob ako sa relationship and other stuff,..kht asa states na ako ngaun,we still have good communication..pero ang catch,e minsan,nako..pinagseselosan pa ako ng gf!!hahaha..pero ok lng,,sobrang close din kme nung gf nia..