I received an email from Lizz, a UP Diliman Fine Arts student who is working on her thesis. Her topic is: Homosexual Tolerance in Society.
She emailed me to ask: “If you could give yourself a ‘happy ending’, what form would it take?” She goes on to illustrate some options like, “Is it acceptance from your family/friends/society? Or finding a loved one to share your life with?”
Interesting, I thought. Here’s what I have to say, Lizz.
My Happy Ending
I am gay, but that is just a part of me. As one of my readers (McVie) commented, “my homosexuality colors but does not define who I am.” Thus holds true too about my happy ending — it is not just a gay man’s happy ending, rather it is a happy ending of a person who just happens to be gay.
I am a very passionate man. It may be ambitious to state in so few words what this passion is all about, but still, I can attempt to do that — my passion is to grow, and to help others grow. I have a passion for growing which encompasses learning in many different levels. Learning with the mind, with the heart, with the body, and with the spirit.
I feel that only after stating these can I start to answer Lizz’s question about how I visualize my happy ending.
I would like my happy ending to be both a conclusion of my passions, and a hopeful continuation of the legacy I leave as a fruit of the purposeful life I have lived. (Wow, that was a mouthful.) I’m sure you will ask, does that in any way include acceptance, or tolerance of my homosexuality? I would answer, yes, it definitely does. However I consciously am not highlighting it because I believe that at a certain level of achievement, acceptance of my homosexuality is already a non-issue. Apart from that, I would wish that as I journey towards that “conclusion of my passions,” the issue of my being gay becomes not just irrelevant but it also should not hinder, better yet, makes the journey a more fun and exciting ride.
How will my happy ending look like? I envision it as follows:
* a family (parents, siblings, nephews, nieces, etc.) that is full of love, despite many challenges
* many friends, also full of love, as if they are family too. May include a loving partner, but it is not a hard requirement.
* a fulfilled and happy self, full of the many, varied learning experiences I’ve gone through, not devoid of failures but oveflowing with lessons learned and wisdom distilled, through action and reflection
* people, perhaps co-workers, friends, even family, who I have nurtured with love, and nourished with experiences and learning — they in some way are my sons and daughters, my gift to the continuation of a better human race.
* lastly, a legacy of some form, that propagates kindness (World Peace!) and further sharing even when I’m not anymore in this world.
How about you, dear readers, how do you envision your own happy ending?
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