Sometimes I have this urge to satisfy my intellectual curiosity… and this thus led me to this old (1999 old) article by Annalyn Jusay, a casino executive and Manila Bulletin writer.
She wrote about “Men Loving Other Men,” an article based on a study entitled â€œExploring the Homosexuality of Filipino Men in Heterosexual Unionsâ€ undertaken by Dr. Romeo Lee of the De La Salle Universityâ€™s Behavioral Sciences Department.
One question asked by Dr. Lee to his gay respondents was, â€œWhat is in your homosexual experience that is not found in a heterosexual relationship?â€ Some of the answers were enlightening:
â€œWith a man, you donâ€™t have any fear. Nobody will get pregnant. With a woman, especially if youâ€™re not married yet, youâ€™re afraid of responsibilities.â€
â€œIt is different when a man performs oral sex on you than it is when a woman does it.â€
â€œI am somewhat a narcissist, an exhibitionist. I like looking at myself in the mirror. Thus, if there is a man who is muscular, I can see myself in him and therefore, I will like him. I cannot see myself in a woman, di ba?â€
â€œWith men, both of you work to satisfy each other. With women, it can be one-sided.â€
â€œOne thing that a man does not experience with a woman is the so-called male-bonding.There is the buddy-buddy system. You are both lovers and friends.â€
Hmmm… I never had a serious heterosexual relationship so I cannot really offer my own answer. But it is quite interesting to imagine how these gay men manage to have their own family, and live in a heterosexual relationship. Parang di ko kaya. (I don’t think I can hack it.) What do you think?
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