Pagudpud is almost at the northernmost tip of the Luzon island. Driving up there from Manila was an ordeal, but since I had 5 other friends with me â€“ it was a blast! More than the usual enjoyment â€“ stories, chikahan, okrayan, and endless laugh trip — one thing I realized during the trip was the critical importance of friendship among gay men.
A friend once told me that among minority groups (e.g., African-Americans, lesbians and gays, etc.), it’s us gays who have a much harder time. For example, when African-Americans suffered racial discrimination in the US, they had their family to help them go through the difficulties â€“ and their family, being African-American themselves, understood how it is to be one, and thus was able to provide the support they needed. Gays, on the other hand, are usually born in families of straight people. Gay children suffer discrimination alone and scared. Why? Because the people closest to them, their family, while loving and all that, are normally straight folks who have little to no understanding of how it is to be gay. Only later on in life would the gay child find the comforting company of people like himself, and by that time he has gone through numerous moments of difficult, sometimes traumatic, experiences â€“ just because he is gay. I remember, when I opened up my circle of trust and allowed people who have gone through similar confusion as myself, I felt like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders. From then on I knew that while I will always encounter challenges and problems, I will always have my friends who will listen to and understand me, without prejudice nor judgment.
Cheers to friendship! May all of us be in the company of loving gay friends!
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