Oct 29
Monday
Issues and Love and Dating
Afraid of Loving Again
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“It’s normal to press yourself away from love, isn’t it? It’s normal to want to seclude yourself, and avoid ever being placed in such a situation a second (or third) time. With each strike, it becomes harder and harder to recover. OR, if you condition yourself each time, to be less and less involved/absorbed in each relationship, it may become easier with every turn. The only catch with that is that — you’re not in love.
What good is a relationship if it’s meaningless? If it only exists as a therapy to your past failures? So you can say that you’re with someone, a nice someone who you care about, and with whom you have a relationship that works. That’s not to say that you don’t love the person, or that it’s completely meaningless. This just means that the relationship isn’t all it could be (if it’s indeed capable of being more- which isn’t always the case) — and a relationship like that may very well be pointless. So, a thought to tack onto this: what if you pursue something real (whether it be in that pointless relationship or with someone else) — what if you pursue this deep, caring, infatuation of a relationship, the kind that makes you infinitely happy
and terribly fearful… and then, you end up losing it, being hurt? What a terrible mistake you’ve made! Or is it? Is it truly better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? What if you’ve already gone through that path once? Should you go through it all over again? Are you setting yourself up for heartache? Or… does your heart ache the entire time that you’re resisting it?” [by Duchess / UNC CHapel Hill]
Oct 29, 2007
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“Time heals all wounds”!
Oct 29, 2007
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It’s all about risks. What’s life without taking the risk?
Oct 29, 2007
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Time also will make you stronger and invulnerable. Unfortunately, it also means you won’t be capable of falling in love…which is the worst thing.
(It happened to me..wahhh!)
:((
Oct 29, 2007
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Remember “The Crying Game”? The scorpion stung the man who helped it because it can’t help itself: that’s its nature. As for us, my dear Migs, we are creatures made to love, that’s our nature. And if we get hurt, we cry, but then we continue to love again. Because we can’t help it, it’s our nature to love. If you try to resist your nature, to hold back on the love that fills your being, then I am afraid you will never be truly happy. Go ahead, dare to love. It gets easier with practice.
Oct 29, 2007
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coffee?
Oct 30, 2007
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the greatest thing you can do is fall in love………
Oct 30, 2007
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or should i say the greatest thing you can ever do is fall in love…….
Nov 6, 2007
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I used to say that for a shot at happiness, everything is worth it…i had my share of losses, and you may say that at my age I maybe young, then again, I still say that despite the past hurt, and most likely, the future hurts, Love still is a wonderful thing…It may have eluded me for the past tries and failures, but these tries made me happy, nonetheless, and well, for a shot, just even that shot, at happiness, evertyhing is worth it, and is still damn worth it. So sue me! I would still chase my rainbows, because somehow, if ever I will still believe in love, and if ever I do stop believeing, I hope it would be love’s turn to believe in me!
Nov 26, 2007
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When you’ve been hurt real bad, it is a natural reaction to try to protect oneself again from a similar situation.
but if love, relationships, caring, friendship, and loyalty are those that you’d rather forego because of your terrible fears, you’ll be missing out on the lessons that life is offering you.
This is the only way to grow. And when you’re ripe enough, the right and ripe person will come along your way and you’d wonder, why was I so worried?
Feb 9, 2008
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yes! that is the problem. we love too much and we simply lose ourselves in the course of loving and that is something stinking for me… after you have loved so much and given too much of yourself, cultivating your love to the utmost it could be, then finally a relationship breaks off, it’s really hard to get up once again… but in my experience, that is because you habitually think of him and getting him out of your system is something like getting rid of the nicotine you’ve got used to… not only that! you stubbornly listen to those mushy songs like those of air supply that you know only adds up to your emotional grievance. sure you won’t ever move on… try looking for an outlet like good books you can get yourself absorbed in and never close your heart for some opportunities out there. like the modernized cliche says: “life is too short. find another one!”
Feb 14, 2008
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This the only reason I know why people do cant recover from break ups - they expect something in return. Kahit ilang libong beses pang ideny mga ineng totoo ito.
Why cant you let other people happy by letting him go if he needs to go na to find another body to satisfy. ang mahalaga natikman na and thats it. Mahirap kasi sa atin ayaw nating maunahan na makikipgabreak. tignan mo pag tao yung naunang makipagbreak hindi ganun kasakit .
Siguro give it a time muna before loving again. hirap na baka gawing whipping post yung bagong karelasyon dahil sa di makaganti sa gumawa ng krimen
kaya nga ako pag ka break namin sisigaw ako agad NEXT PLEASE!
Aug 17, 2008
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If you had loved and know how to love unconditionally you will not be afraid to love again.