Accept it or not, more and more of the children of Adam is now being ushered to the other camp. Regardless of how we act in front of other people, what we project of ourselves is what we want other people think of us. It is our wall to secure our private thoughts, feelings and emotions. With regards to straight acting gay men, I think its okay as long as they don’t hurt other people. Like marrying and then having to commit to adultery with a fellow guy.

Rule of the thumb: We do as like and like as we do as long as

1. We don’t hurt anybody.
2. We are happy.

else you are being abnormal.

ipako sila sa KRUS!!!
hehehe
well, i guess kung un ang gusto nila sa life nila, who are we to interfere!!!!???

Three cheers to all! and may we find what r hearts truly desires…

Oops, sorry migs. Naapakan ko hair mo.

Migs, I think there is a need to clarify the label that you used. Though I know how confusing labels are, especially here in the Philippines where people freely use bi-sexuality to mean straight-acting (or butch acting, which I prefer since not all straight men act butch, also it discards the need to reference to heterosexuals as a point of comaprison). Anyway….

There are gay men (and women) who get married and have children because they are confused and don’t know of any other options. Period. Be they effeminate, butch-acting it doesn’t matter. To these people, I truly hope that they find their inner strength to realize and grab what would truly make them happy.

…man for an older gay guy and supposedly wiser one, you have been and are entertaining a bunch of losers…

Ay. Stop rushing into these relationships with men so quickly! Its like your not even learning from your prior mistakes! Be it, gay or straight, it doesnt matter if your even more confused and more indecisive than the people you date, hun because the truth of the matter is birds of a feather flock together. Whether you like it or not, your calling uneeded people that have inconsiderately hurt you by something that only YOU KNOW your doing. When you let yourself, be used, your setting yourself to be used again by others so learn to have better judgement before you get involved with anyone. Its common sense to ASK before you get involved in anything, casual or commited.

Posting about this doesnt exactly make you look like the most responsible person. Although, it takes alot of courage to admit some of those things but damn I think its stupid that u dont know any better and entertain these burnouts.

I would say dont date anyone who says their straight acting because there is NO SUCH THING. Straight acting just means that they ARE ACTING STRAIGHT. MEANING THEY WANNA BE STRAIGHT. It doesnt mean they are masculine because there is no real definition of that. EVERYONE has masculine and effeminate qualities regardless of gender. I live in NY and let me tell u that THATS what that really means.

Acting is not what u wanna be when your with someone you really care about because when u get deeper into that relationship whatever it may be, who you are is not going to be able to shine through as well as ud want it to. People will like u for what ur projecting and not who u really are. Stop hanging with these losers because your in an endless cycle of confusion and denial.

My advice is to not date so frequently. ESPECIALLY in the Phillippines. There is like no public awareness of AIDS or HIV or STDS and contraceptives there and alot of Filipinos do it bareback. And thats sad given that as gay people YOU SHOULD BE more aware. Its not safe and not cool esp. if u dont know any of these so called unmarried jerks very well.

Just get your self together before you go out and date so much. Get to know people before you go on dates left and right. The gay community is small esp in the Pinas, so you know that if ur dating alot, its going to get around back to you sooner or later who u sleep and cater to.

To me, it just sounds like your really confused with who you are and what you want in life. I would just try my hardest to focus on what I really want in life and out of myself and the people or person I want in my life. When u get that out of the way, the things u want, will come to you. I promise you and anyone who listens to this advice, that it WILL happen. I hope this bluntness helps.

heres a ton of “Sprite”!!! cheers to all!

I have my problems of my own…problema na nila ‘yan bat ‘di sila magpakatotoo.

Mahirap ang maging bakla, mas lalong mahirap ang magpakalalaki kung alam mo naman na lalaki din ang gusto mo……ewan…ayoko na!
Tama na ang kabaliwang ito!

Tama…’yong lenya sa bagong pelikula ni Aga….

“Mahal mo ba ako?”
“Sobra….kahit alam kung mali na…”

Lecheng pag-ibig!
Pero,,,kahit ganoon masarap mabuhay…kahit minsan alam mo na merong nagmamahal sa’yo at nagmahal ka din…..

I’m confused na talaga sa mga straight-acting gay guy katulad ng lover ko.
Sarap umiyak…..waaaaaah!

bakit si piolo ang nasa picture? what does it mean?

i think piolo is a really gay!!!

migs! ambisyosa ka! si Piolo pa nilagay mo! ingrata

Ang hirap nga. Di mo naman choice na maging ganito, like in born ba, tapos di naman tanggap ng society, parang unfair. Nakakainis. So ang tendency talaga, e magtago. Kaya yung iba na out na, matatapang talaga.

Tsalap naman nyang pic ni Piolo, kahit gay sya, yummy pa din.

So which category does Migs falls….hmmmm. - curious fan

I think its a person’s choice..kung saan sya masaya dapat dun sya… we are not here to make other people happy but to make ourselves happy first so that we can make other people happy…ganun!

NIce MIGS!!!

This issue is just temporary. I bet years from now, this wouldnt be such a big deal. Here in the US, its actually not a big deal if you are straight acting or not. There is diversity in the Gay World and it is definitely accepted here. Its just a matter of accepting what part of the diversity you are in and what part of the diversity is your type. As I have noticed in the Philippines, the “effems” tend to attack the straight actings. They always say: Magpakatotoo. The truth is: they were once rejected by a straight acting guy and is being sour about it and in fact effems tend to like straight acting guys to be in bed with them. One conclusion i could get from this arguement: Narrowmindedness and hypocrisy is the culprit. Again, accept your place in this diversity and know what part of diversity is your type. No need to pick on the ones that you are not. Simple as that.:)

Honestly I think it is summed up simply, to thine own self be true. And let love admit no impediments. Love’s not love that alters when alteration finds.

Ask the Bard

its better to keep it real. its time to emancipate oneself from inhibitions. we are responsible for our actions afterall.

at the end of the day it all boils down to respect and tolerance. to each his own

mabuhay ang mga kabit at querida! yun lang!

as Dyan hinted and as Hiro elaborated, your fate really starts with you. whether a gay man is feminine or masculine is beside the point.there will always be liars, deceivers, users and confused men with issues and baggages, but you also have the choice not to be part of it. if you hope to attract quality, discriminating men then you will have to be one yourself. the Manila gay scene is very small and often people’s reputation precedes them. if someone gets a reputation of being gamit na gamit na, his fate is pretty much sealed, at least within the gay community.

People here seem to forget that what isn’t their life shouldn’t be their business.

I agree with much of Broken Heart’s thoughts.

And Gods…the language! Filipinos love adopting words from the US without even understanding them.

oo nga migs, you have to clarify, bakit si papa piolo ang nasa pic? are you trying to insinuate something? he is a friend of a friend and according to him, pj, as he is fondly called, is, oh, well, your guess is as good as mine… and by the way, i am from new york too, but i do know the difference between “their” and “they’re”, and “your” and “you’re”. yun, lang! lol!

Sorry, I just had to react. I think I’m one of those all of you are refering to (or for some, seemingly attacking). I’ve had some casual sex (with men, and yes maybe I’m a bit confused. I currently have a girlfriend, but I do love her… both sexually and emotionally. So I guess I can both get a hard on to either men or women. Is there such a thing as bi-sexual? I do think so. Its just a matter of deciding which gender you actually end up with. I agree with migs… poor women… who get tangled up with men who, after the marraige still hasn’t decided yet on which gender to settle with and still would be looking for the forbidden. But i guess, I can’t talk much about something I myself am guilty of. Its hard, it really is. My first time was with this cute chinoy who picked me up in a car like I’m some male prostitute. I also had a girlfriend back then, but I guess I got mesmerized by how handsome he was. Not even my big baggage (just came from the airport straight back to the office) prevented me from getting in the car. And I guess the rest was history, or at least the start of my dilemma. Again, I have a girlfriend and still dreams of the chinoy guy. Don’t prosecute us who are like this. Its hard I tell you. Perhaps what you all can do is understand us, and do your best to turn us down (if some would offer sex). It helps to be turned down by another guy… it gets us to thinking… and back to reality… that we do still have a wife… a girlfriend… or a kid even… waiting for us at home. … *sighs*

gusto ko ung mga “shared thoughts” nila Broken Heart at Pronghorn…
me sense. Ung iba ang haba-haba, kahilo to read. Kaya lang para silang mga bad-trip sa mundo. Tanong ko lang, who broke your heart,broken heart?
Peace!

i like your stand on acceptance. to accept that even in homosexuality, there’s diversity. The problem with our thinking mostly is the polarization of things. Black or white, Bakla at Straight, Mali at tama. But in reality, most of us falls on the gray area between black and white.

Ang yeah, Piolo is so gay. hihihi

It is all a matter of choice and a matter of acceptance. Some choose to act straight (and some do act straight, anyway), while others choose to be effem. Gayness represents a wide spectrum of personalities and characters. In the end, it is your preference in gay men that matters. SOme would go for the butch types, others would like the ‘girly’ kinds. Does that make one or the other less interesting? I doubt it. In the end, the quest leads to what is between the legs.(hehehe). O sige na, world peace na kung world peace. Mabuhay!!!!

Ewan ko lang huh, pero sa experience ketch ang mga “straight-acting” pa ang warla sa mga dingga. Parang mga diri, kala mo naman magkakaketong. Che sila!

How do you encounter these ’straight-acting’ gay men? Just curious, on your first encounter, di ba sila parang call boys???

Empress maruja I think you should read broken- hearted’s opinion

“This issue is just temporary. I bet years from now, this wouldnt be such a big deal. Here in the US, its actually not a big deal if you are straight acting or not. There is diversity in the Gay World and it is definitely accepted here. Its just a matter of accepting what part of the diversity you are in and what part of the diversity is your type. As I have noticed in the Philippines, the “effems” tend to attack the straight actings. They always say: Magpakatotoo. The truth is: they were once rejected by a straight acting guy and is being sour about it and in fact effems tend to like straight acting guys to be in bed with them. One conclusion i could get from this arguement: Narrowmindedness and hypocrisy is the culprit. Again, accept your place in this diversity and know what part of diversity is your type. No need to pick on the ones that you are not. Simple as that.:)

The Kinsey scale explains a lot. Check out: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
Live and let live.

i am a straight-acting gay guy myself. I just came out of the closet less than two months back. My only problem before why I dont want to come out and be gay then is because I am an athlete, and athlete should be straight.. or at least that was my mindset back then. Bago ko lang nalaman na not all gays wear make up, dress clothes for women, or sway hips twice for each one foot forward. After watching queer as folks made me realize that hehe. And I also agree that its hard to find the right relationship para sa mga kagaya ko kasi it is cloaked bale we mix with straight guys… anyone out there? hehe

I am straight-acting. Mas madami nagpapalipad hangin pag straight acting eh, hehehe. pero hanggang dun na lang yun. I am taken na by someone who is out! And I really don’t mind kung me mga humuhusga. Walang pilitan kung ayaw ko mag-out. Kanya-kanyang style to. Natutuwa nga ako sa mga out eh kasi masaya.

At wala kaming label, though I don’t go bottom, hehehe. kung san masaya dun kami…

Migs,
i am writing this in defense of piolo pascual…
i thought you said lets us not be judgmental…
why post piolos’ pic under the heading str8 acting gay?
if you respect piolo or any gay for that matter then you shouldnt have posted his pic…what are you insinuating?
if indeed piolo is gay…at least give him the benefit of the doubt!!!

See!!!
…exactly just how many kinds are there?
this chat room speaks for itself.
It’s a whole world of its own.
love it….
…dami ko natutunan ha!
peace!

ako ay isang bading..not a cross dresser, not a very loud ones!! basta bading because you could obviously seen it when i speak, at may pagka-feminine ang looks ko dahil mana ako sa nanay ko..hindi ren mahaba ang hair ko BASTA CUTE na BADING AKO!!(”>) I just wanted you all to know (Based on my Observation) that being a “paminta” only attracts to a “paminta” guy din.. In my case, mga -TOTOONG- lalake talaga ang mga na-aatract sa akin, yung iba nga brusko, yung ibga pamilyado at yung iba TIBO dahil siguro sa pagiging totoo ko!! Kaya mahirap talagang nagtatago ka, kaya rin ang tulad mo lang din ang nagkaka-gusto s’yo at hindi ka magustuhan nang mga taong naka-paligid s’yo!!

Meow-yaw:

Nobody broke my heart.:) I just think the name catches everyone’s attention. I’m actually thinking of doing a blog and i thought it should be something connected with the word HEART. Should I? Migs, What do you think?

@Broken Heart - go ahead, go blog! Then join PinoyGayBlogs.com Good luck!

Hi Migs- you said: “I applaud the “effems” because they have the courage to be such even if society generally frowns upon their unconventional behavior. Give them the respect they need.”

I’d rather we say: “Give them the respect they deserve.”

Not everyone deserves the respect that they need.

isa lang masasabi ko… yang mga confused eklavu na yan pero dating other men, karma natin yan. masyado na raw tayong magaganda.

sa tingin ko we should stay away from these types, kung confused man sila hindi tayo ang kasagutan.

why do some of us here assume that the closeted ones are confused? they can be closeted but not confused. you can still be out, and yet confused. being closeted, out, straight-acting, and so on, can be (1) a choice, (2) socially-determined, (3) some confusion, and so on. tama ang ilan sa itaas: whatever or whoever you are, basta you don’t trample upon another person’s life or affair, you’re cool

Sorry but it’s like blaming the straight-acting for making it hard to find the right person to be in a relationship with.

straight-acting is just another option. And not all them are confused, married or with a girlfriend.

I agree wholeheartedly with what Eric said.

i believe, people only show who they are, in their own capacity. either you are straight acting or effeminate, it is rooted from your own nature, something you are comfortable of doing and showing. even if you force yourself acting as straight, it is still in your nature to incline towards the image you are comfortable to show. thus, everyone deserves respect, for everyone in the camp has his own battle to live with. everyone has his own liberty to be who he is. no matter how obscure, how absurd, everyone deserves a bicycle, where he can freely drive himself to his own path.
for straight acting — confusion
for those with conscious effort to act straight — ridicule
for effeminates — discrimination.
now? tell me, is there any one of them, who deserves to be a laughingstock?

dowel

after having posted my comment, i read the ones posted before mine, and thought of listing down my hypothesis.
1. there are straight acting gay guys, some confused.
2. there are straight acting gay guys, some are just born masculine and not confused.
3. there are closeted straight acting gay guys, most decided from choice to have the managing easier, few merely from fear to be ridiculed.
4. there are effeminates, some confused too.
5. there are effeminates, because they were born and raised to be feminine, and they are gay.
6. not all effeminates, are gay, rarely straight.
7. some effeminates laughs at some straight acting, as much as some straight acting laughs at some of them, but not ALL.

which leads us to one conclusion, YOU CAN’T BE SURE.
you can’t be sure of one’s reason.
you can’t be sure if your suspicion is correct.
you can’t be sure who amongst them laughs at you.
you just CAN’t be sure.
so, since you can’t be sure, why not just mind your own business, and let others be who they are in ways they want to be who they are. besides, since you don’t have the capability to bear a child, then don’t expect others their explanation, because you are not their mother.

dowel

we can’t balme them and i guess, many effems are just insecure of “pamintas” for whatever reason… as for the photo being posted above, (which is obviously Piolo) its unfair on his part since he has no chance to defend himself… ‘m sorry but i call it insecurity…

you can be all masculine and get all your kicks from men.

nakakatuwa naman. Well, ang dami na nga nila. Kahit san ka pumunta, meron. I think its not right that we call them gay, kasi di happy ang pagiging straight acting e.

wew…dme n nagspur n comments about Migs’ orginal blog.
I do admire what he said and let me quote: “No need to be judgmental; accept the fact that embracing diversity means welcoming gay guys who are naturally masculine in their outward behavior.”
As per his dating the type of guys he mentioned, i dont care, it’s his life. As long as he knows what he’s doing and knows the consequences of those actions and if he’s ready for them(consequences), its fine. let him be.
The same goes for straight acting, masculine, effem, flambouyant or what ever label of guys/gays it may be. It should all boil down to a common view, respect diversity.
Nobody needs to force anybody to believe anything.
-just my thoughts.
*wink

“Diversity” I think there is diversity in all genders. So whatever one choses what he/she wants to be then let him be. I think we should respect everyone regardless of the nature of anyones sexuality and physical attributes.
Like myself i am a closeted gay but i am not confused. All along I thought that it was just a phase and eventually i would come out of my closet and i thought that living in the US would be more comfortable for me to come out and just be myself. But i was wrong, It’s been a couple of years that i am here in the US but i am still the same person that i was when i was still in the philippines. Nothing changed, my ideals and priciples are still the same. So maybe its an inherent characteristic or just a choice.
The bottom line is we are happy with our choices and the way we want to lead our lives. and we deserve respect for that.

Btw migs, you said in your podcast that you can and will try to meet up with your fans hehehe “artistahin na si migs” if given the chance. I am one of your maybe countless fans so if by any chance you can visit NY just drop me a msg and i will be honored na makita ka even for a dinner. Thanks

i guess tama nga un.. respect na lang sa mga effems. i am one of those straight acting gay men but still i managed to find myself a very loving bf na straight acting din.. its just a matter of waiting for that right guy. it comes when u least expect it. mas mataas pa nga respeto ko sa mga out na kc matapang sila at may respeto.. madami kcng mga straight acting gay men na mataas maxado ang tingin sa sarili na dapat sambahin mo sila, sila usually ung mga selfish men na sexual satisfaction lang ang hanap.. im proud to be gay but not brave enough to be out..
someday pag yumaman na ko..haha.. tska ako magout,..ahaha

sa akin walang problema maxado lang kasing “malice” mag isip ang tao lalo na tayong mga pinoy. well, sa akin bahala cla basta walang iyakan.

for me…being gay is not the mannerisms anymore…my partner and i are both straight acting but we’re totally out. being gay depends on your sexual preference right? so, i think no one has the right to jusdge straight acting gay men because that is naturally what we are. if there is someone to be judged, yun yung mga straight acting pero sa harap ng kabadingan, girl na girl. yun andg ang mga dapat sabihan. there is nothing wrong with being gay and being straight acting at the same time. long gone are the days when gay people were viewed as parloristats(no offense to my parlorita sistahs out there)

truth is there a lot of straight-acting gays ryt now…some r realy confused of their sexuality…hay naku accept n lng natin n si modern generation Adan ay alam ang kiliti ng kapwa nya Adan kya dumadami tau….

its just like the relationship given by a gay mag on xmen ang homosexuality….

some needed to take the cure…
(straight acting)
to stop hurting sumbody else
to redeem self from stereotypes
to avoid prejudice
to be normal like everybody else

and unfortunately,
for some to get the power of both worlds
more range of attraction more chances to get laid…

hay…

Hello everybody,

I think my comment about in this article is a bit delayed. This topic might be long forgottern but I think its very important.

I just wonder why people have to label other people. I think it is the prerogative of each one of us human being to choose what we want. I agree with fratboiO2, wastedbrief, Ralph, Lands, dowel’s comments. To sum up, a conclusion of “mind your own business” is the rule. I believe (of course not everyone will agree) that if you are not hurting anyone and just following the “golden rule”, there’s nothing wrong to what you wanted to potray. Some people wanted to out so be it. Some wanted to act sraight or “in closet” for some reason not even one of us can help, so be it. Why should some gay insist on “magpakatotoo” ka, are you willing to take the responsibility or help the person involved in case a very devastating result happened due to his coming out as you wish? I just hope everyone will respect each individual for the choices they made. As my mom will always say, “pinakain ka ba nila para sumunod o matakot ka sa kanila”. Or “pinakain mo ba sila para utusan mo kung ano ang gusto mong gawin nila even though its against their will?” So I think everyone of us reflect. What we want doesn’t mean the right thing to do and to choose. So “walang paki-alaman” but “mag respetohan”.

I admire blueharajuku for coming out, and I sympathized with “chocolate sin” for the confusion he is in. We are living in a difficult and “masalimuot na mundo”. Everyone does have problems. Just be strong, have faith in God, and strive.

About piolo (same with other celebrities), yes, I agree to a lot of the comments here, I hope we give them peace.

Good day everyone

Hi again,

My apology for additional comment.

By the way, I also wonder why do we have to hide under initials, pen names, and so forth. If there are people who really wanted to be “magpakatotoo”, why don’t we just post our pictures, full name, address, phone number and other biodata. Are we or you hiding something? or afraid of something? So please reflect. Thanks again.

janvier pa rin!

i myself is trying to look straight, pero minsan kahit d ko sinasdya, lumalabas talaga… hahaha… well, blame it on my fear of rejection. Although im fully aware that my parents and people i love already know, i somehow forbids my real self to “come-out”. It’s super hard, lalo na if ur parents are respected in the community, when they have high ideals and expectations. maybe im hiding for their sake as well, ayoko lang mapagusapan kami…. Siguro i’ll remain “trying-to-look-safe” for the rest of my life na…

YAYA, pakilabas nga ang almires! magdidikdik ako ng paminta

I am one of them. But i accepted that my preference are male species and never tried to deceive a woman or hide my sexuality by being married. Straight acting gays who are married are fooling their wives.

Dami comments! Nwei, I agree with mikel “who are we to interfere” and also with dowel “You can’t be sure”. Plus masyadong conservative kasi ang mga tao. May nagsabi din na “give them the respect they deserve instead of the need” ganun din kasi ako. I respect people based on the respect they deserve.
Just like yung bading kong prof. nagkataong namamasyal ako with a male friend then nakita nya ako with my friend na kilala din nya. After that I just heard from another friend na ang prof ko na yun eh nagsabi na “paiimbestigahan ko yang dalawa na yan” Sa akin lang eh, Ganun naba ang mga Bading ngayon? If you feel that a person is engage in same sex relationship does it mean ba na kahit hindi nya karelasyon yung kasama nya purely friend lang pagiisipan nyo na ng masama? Nwei, if I will confrom with the labelling thing I’m a guy who is engaged in a same sex relationship na muka pading straight.

ako rin ay confused in the sense that every thing in me is undoubtedly straight guy except that i am attracted to cute guys….

migs, I have something to confess. noon pa man, alam ko deep inside I have a feeling of being gay. Pero kahit my feelings akong ganun, I went through the flow pa rin as a straight man to have a girlfriend just to show others na lalaki talaga ako. But before I court this girl, I told her what really my feelings is, to be fair with her. I told her that I love her, although bago pa man ako nagcourt sa kanya alam kong attracted din siya sa akin. Ganun kasi ako kasigurista. nanliligaw ako sa babaeng alam kong may pagtingin din sa akin. Sa ideang yun kasi nagkakaroon ako ng lakas ng loob manligaw. Kaya ayun nga, nanligaw ako sa kanya pero sinabi ko muna sa kanya ang totoo….ang totoong ako. Na isa akong bading.. At first, o baka hanggang ngayon, ay hindi pa rin siya maniniwala na talagang bading nga ako. Sinabi ko sa kanya kung okey lang ba sa kanya na bading ang boyfriend niya. Wala siyang sinagot. Ayaw niyang magsalita. Sa tuwing napag-uusapan namin ang ganun, umiiba siya ng topic. ayaw talaga niyang marinig ang tungkol sa mga kabadingan.
Just recently, may nakilala akong isang guy. He is in his first year college. 17 y.o. Batang-bata. Hindi rin halatang bading. Nagkakilala kami sa g4m. Siya yung unang nagyayang makipagmeet sa akin. Umayon naman ako. Wala siyang pic sa g4m pero nung nagkita na kami, napa oh! my gosh ako. Tang ina ang cute ng gago! Kahawig niya si Kenjie Garcia. Kaya ayun, na love at first sight siyempre ako. At lalo ‘kamong lumakas ang lukso ng dugo ko nung sinabi niyang magsex kami. Tang ina ayaw niya sa motel. Gusto niya sa bahay talaga nila gagawin namin ang kahalayan. Malaki ang bahay nila at malaki ang kaniyang kuwarto. Tulog na siyempre ang mga kasambahay niya nang dumating kami. Sobrang hot ng bagets! Siyempre, the rest is history na pagkatapos. Siya yung bottom. That was my very unforgettable experience. Until now my communication pa rin kami. And we make love oftentimes. Duon ko naramdaman sa kanya ang tunay na sarap ng sex na hindi ko nahanap sa girlfriend ko. Magboyfriend na kami ngayon.
At para hind maging unfair sa gf ko, I told her about this. Ayaw niyang maniwala. Pero kahit ayaw niyang maniwala, pinilit ko pa rin siyang papaniwalain. Nagdinner kaming tatlo sa uptown area ng Cebu. Ipinakilala ko sila pareho. At sabi ko sa kanya para maniwala siya ng lubos, naghalikan kami ni Chad(pangalan ng bf ko) sa harap ng gf ko. Alam kong masakit yun sa kanya pero nuon pa man ay sinabi ko na sa kanya kung ano talaga ako. Agad-agad ay sinabi ko sa kanya na okey lang sa akin kung makikipagbreak siya from that moment. Pero ayaw talaga ng lola nyo! Sinabi ba naman sa akin na okey lang sa kanya na dalawa sila sa puso ko! At least daw hindi raw siya gaanong magseselos kasi hindi babae ang karibal niya. Dahil alam daw niya na sa kanya pa rin daw ako mauuwi. Kahit ilang lalaki pa raw ang matitikman ko okey lang sa kanya. Dahil sa lahat lahat, siya pa rin daw ang makapagbibigay sa akin ng anak. Migs, normal pa ba ang babaeng ‘to, matanong nga kita?

I’m not sure if I’m doing this right…. I am an older latino gay who will be moving to the Philippines with a Filipino man quite a bit younger than myself in the next couple of months. We are getting married in California. I have never been to the Philippines and am both excited and nervous. I am also HIV positive. Can anyone tell me what to expect… or experience? Where a place might be where the air is ok, the temp not hot, hot and where acceptance will be i guess at least ok… or just any information. I have relied heavily upon my partner, but also think it will be helpful to know the experience of others… I am a very healthy HIV person with a high t cell count and non detectable status for the last 7 years.

David pls practice safe sex when you’re in the Philippines. There are lots of great looking Filipino boys who will be too hot to handle and would be all too willing to jump into bed with you (granting you’re the typical cute uncut latino we have dutifully tucked in our subconscious), despite your status (in a relationship).

Everything else will follow. Pinoys are really kindhearted and friendly. So settling here won’t be that big of a problem.