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Many opinions float when the question about befriending an ex-boyfriend is asked. A lot of those I’ve heard and read hinge their answer on the nature of the break-up. If the break-up is good, why not, they say. If the break-up is bad, why bother? Break-ups are, more often than not, bad. Thus it follows that most ex-boyfriends end up strangers to each other.

Idealist

I am an idealist, if you have not figured out yet, so expect that my opinion is on the side of the possibility of being friends with one’s ex. How? I am not an expert, but based on the argument above, it may help to desire for a good breakup (an oxymoron?). I do think that however difficult and perhaps uncontrollable a break-up is, one can still be proactive about it.

How?

Again, how? I can only offer this advice: don’t wait for the relationship to rot and get to a point of no option — stop and cut the relationship before respect for each other runs out. This takes a lot of head-over-the-heart discipline, something quite rare in the realm of romantic relationships. I also believe only those who have a minimum of self-knowledge can attempt to do this.

Of course all these are just my thoughts. How about you? What do you think?

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